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Attention Employers: Your Employees Want, No NEED, A Coach Approach!

February 19th, 2010

It’s one of the toughest times ever — both for those out of work and perhaps, even more, for those who have held on to their jobs.   The plain fact is that employees need to cover more work with less available resources in order for their companies to survive, let alone thrive. Employers, on the other hand, require employees who understand just how much is at stake and who are just as invested as the top executives are in making things work.

Employers have been able to hold onto top talent because of the poor economy, but that may no longer be enough to retain those high performers, especially when the economic climate improves.  The number of Americans who reported being happy with their careers dropped to an all-time low — 45 percent — in a new Conference Board survey that found people are more miserable than ever in nearly every aspect of their work lives.

What can you, as an employer, do to increase motivation and engagement and help those employees you value through challenging times?  How can you, as a leader, set the tone and motivate and inspire your team, leading to a happier and more productive workplace? (Remember, when things get better, you don’t want to lose your best workers - retraining and rehiring is an expensive proposition!)

Employees are looking for true leaders…who can talk AND walk like true coaches!  “Nothing is better than a leader who understands the value of the coaching process, who learns from his or her own coach, and then takes those skills into the workplace to develop and lead a team,” comments Ed Abel, President of Abel Institute, an international leader in business coaching, whose company develops business owners into powerful business leaders.

Here are just a few great skills that all leaders can develop, courtesy of iPEC Coaching:
•    Share the vision and empower employees to contribute their ideas and give feedback.  Ask more questions than you answer, and seek to get “buy in” to the plan.  Ask questions like, “what does the plan need in order to make it work for you?”
•    Don’t make promises you can’t keep – employees appreciate honesty! Level with your team and show that you are committed to helping them.
•    Listen to your employees’ concerns, and acknowledge and validate their fears.  Focus not only on “what” they say, but on the context of the message (where are they truly coming from? why are saying what they are saying? what does their tone tell you? other non-verbal cues?).
•    Celebrate successes and give recognition. Adam Gostick and Chester Elton, in “The Carrot Principle: How Great Managers Use Employee Recognition,” write “For organizations that do it right, it’s a bit like discovering gold in your backyard. Employee recognition, long considered a benefit that costs money, can actually be a management tool that makes money.”
•    Find out what internal drivers motivate your employees (it’s not a one size fits all approach) — is it more exposure, creative outlets, time off, etc? What else will speak to their individual needs? Then create opportunities that play to these drivers.
•    Lead by example, and with integrity: D. Luke Iorio, President of iPEC Coaching comments, “It’s often been said that true leaders emerge when times are tough – it’s what you do in the difficult times that makes you a leader; and this is when your integrity will be tested the most… When your actions match your message and your decisions match your principles, others view you as genuine, authentic and trustworthy. They will follow your lead.”

Love is in the Air!

February 16th, 2010

Strangers in the night and love is in the air! It’s that time of the year for couples to show unconditional love and whisper sweet nothings followed up with beautiful smelling red roses and cherry filled chocolates.  So what should one do for this day of love? Here’s a suggestion; if you’re happily involved in a healthy, loving relationship make it point to make Valentine’s Day extra special. Be sure to be creative and think out of the box. Of course you can always have a romantic dinner and send flowers, and this is great but let’s really show some love and let her see your romantic side.  Here’s a tip for you; make romantic plans for the two of you to share cozy an d memorable moment that will last you a lifetime. Instead of watching the sunset, pack a picnic basket with some hot cocoa, marsh-mellows and a warm blanket and watch the Sun rise!

That’s right; I said “watch the sun rise!”Just before sunrise is one of the most beautiful times of day, it’s peaceful and you can watch nature as she un-veils life right before your eyes. Think about it, a romantic date in the morning…sounds exciting doesn’t it? I can assure you that your date will certainly be surprised by it.

Often, simplicity is absolutely the best policy. Your location can be anywhere you’d like. Even in your own backyard. All that matters is the two of you  sharing a romantic moment as you  watch the night fade, and the sun awaken the world around you… now that’s romantic!

Happy Valentine’s Day!
Shelby M. Hill, MBA, CPC
www.ShelbyMHill.com
www.ItsComplicatedOnline.com

Happy President’s Day!

February 15th, 2010

Today we celebrate Washington’s Birthday, also commonly known as Presidents Day.  What a great day to recognize our first president, George Washington, and, while we are at it, recognize all those Chief Executives who came after him. While we may not always agree with some of their politics, they have often inspired and motivated us with their powerful words.

Here are a few great quotes from past presidents upon which to reflect.

George Washington: “A slender acquaintance with the world must convince every man that actions, not words, are the true criterion of the attachment of friends.”

Here Washington is speaking about integrity, knowing yourself and what you stand for, and then making decisions, presenting yourself, and acting upon those beliefs. Integrity is perhaps best demonstrated when the leader has become the message, and is not simply the messenger — meaning they truly “walk the walk.”

Abraham Lincoln: “Good things may come to those who wait, but only those things left behind by those who hustle.”

Great leaders know that progress cannot continue until decisions are made. They get clear on their decision making criteria, consciously walk through their decision making process, and know how to balance the need for more information with the opportunity that could be lost by delaying the decision.

Harry Truman… “The buck stops here.”

A lesson in responsibility:  Leaders take responsibility for their own actions, and hold themselves accountable. They aren’t about finger-pointing, and they are clear about their role in every decision and issue.  They “own” their part.

Ronald Reagan: “Trust but verify.”

A lesson in accountability: Accountability is not “looking over someone’s shoulder” because you don’t trust them. In ensuring that all’s been done according to plan, you can move forward to what’s next.  If there’s trust, it means there’s no reason you can’t hold someone accountable, nor should they mind.  They actually will view it as someone looking to support them in making sure they have followed through
with plan and purpose.

And remember, you don’t have to be a President to be a leader.  A leader is the individual in an interaction who knowingly or unknowingly creates the greater influence on the other person.  It’s not about whether you are a leader, it is about how well you lead!  What kind of leader do you want to be?

Happy President’s Day!

Happy Valentine’s Day!

February 15th, 2010

Chocolates and flowers, love poems and hearts … but Valentine’s Day is so much more than just a Hallmark Holiday!  It reminds us to honor the gift of relationships, which bring us much joy (sometimes pain) and, frequently, growth. Here are a few thoughts on relationships and love in celebration of Valentine’s Day.

Without relationships, we would have no mirror to see ourselves.  We would not have a sounding board against which to base our own experiences.  The people in our lives give us clues as to what we believe about ourselves. Hopefully, they are mirroring how much we express our real Self.

“Relationships with other people allow you to share experiences and perspectives, so that all can remember who they are … in relation to one another,” says Bruce D Schneider, Founder, iPEC Coaching (www.ipeccoaching.com). “We all have intimate, social, and professional relationships, and certainly we experience highs and lows in each of our relationships,” he adds. “In low times, it’s often the underlying values of each member in the relationship that are in conflict. Greater harmony and synthesis can be created by an understanding of the role that values play in relationships.”

When we are in the right relationship with ourselves, we can then enjoy and value other relationships for what they truly offer. Instead of coming from need and lack, we can realize that our relationships are gifts, helping us to relate to others in an empowering way.

Valentine’s Day offers us an opportunity to show gratitude to those in our lives who we value, and who ideally bring out the best in us.

“Remember the small moments,” comments D. Luke Iorio, CEO, iPEC (www.ipeccoaching.com). “For Valentine’s Day, we often get caught up in the big plans, the romantic dinner and evening, the perfect special gift. But really, isn’t it the small things that lead to the strongest relationships?  It’s doing a few extra chores around the house without being asked; it’s the random bouquet of flowers on Tuesday just because; it’s picking up your spouse’s favorite snack while at the store. The core message of Valentine’s Day can be expressed 365 days a year. The secret of Valentine’s Day is to remember all of the little things that we can do all year long for those that we care about.”