Whether we realize it or not, we all influence people all day long. When we interact with one person, that interaction not only affects that person, but everybody around that person. We have a powerful level of impact that we may not even recognize. It creates this incredible ripple effect on every single person we touch in our lives – people that we may not know well or at all.
The question is then, is it a positive influence? When we are conscious of who we are and what we do, and how much influence we have, then we’re really able to affect people in a positive way – as opposed to affecting them in a negative way. The funny thing is, when we do affect them in a negative way, we don’t control the situation. We feel out of control, ourselves. That’s the repercussion of the negative effect. It comes back and then detrimentally has an impact on our lives too.
When we start to say, “What works well that can I do more of, and what am I missing that I know I can better do?” then we start to think about what our potential really is. Nobody reaches their potential – nobody – but, we can begin to tap into and start to live to our potential. Those are the people who will be the most successful and the most fulfilled in all aspects of their lives.
People are looking for more… more out of the products and services they buy, more out of the people they associate with, and, certainly, more out of life, in general. It used to be that it was all about finding the right job, staying there for 35 years, being content with what the company and your life gave you, and kind of making the best of things. Now it’s, “How can I create the best of things?” They want the right job. They want the right lifestyle. They want absolutely everything, and they’re beginning to recognize that they’re actually at the center of it all. They’re the common denominator in terms of creating everything that they want in their lives and work. It’s a fantastic movement to see and watch.
The irony is that we achieve control when we stop trying to control things – when we start to understand that our lives are a creation, on which we have a direct impact and that includes what we do and with whom we do it. And, when we feel like we are at the center, that means we create what happens in our lives and no longer live at the effect of life.
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)