I’ll go out on a limb and say that you probably know your viewpoints, extremely well. You are very familiar with what you see, believe, and want… and, in this, familiarity comes: The Filter!
Life coaching and executive coaching (really, all niches of coaching) pulls back the veil on the filters that we all have. You cannot possibly see everything, at all angles, and from all different perspectives. And, even if you could, you wouldn’t have had all the experiences that other people have had, so as to truly view events through their eyes. In being aware that you have filters, you can seek to understand what they are (for yourselves) and seek information that expands your view and, thus, your options.
Start, in any situation, by considering: What are you not seeing?
Consider the perspective someone else might have and why that perspective is perfectly valid for them and from where they sit.
Consider the events and the likely thoughts, patterns, and views that have been left unspoken and underlie what leads to the current situation.
Consider your own reactions and why certain events either bothered you so immensely, or excited you while it bothered others.
Consider the differences in multiple perspectives and why each of those different perspectives contains more and more of the complete picture.
Consider that what you’re seeing, in front of you, is just information – with no meaning… until that meaning is breathed into life from all different views.
Our brains operate rapidly and efficiently. Our brain will select past experiences and assumptions and apply them to current circumstances, and they often miss a whole lot of new information UNLESS we tell it to look for this new information and different perspectives.
“What are you not seeing?” – a simple question that quite literally opens up a whole new world of possibilities for you.
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)