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This Coach Wants to Know: Still Resolved?

January 11th, 2012

It’s just one week later… how resolved are you on those 2012 goals?

Resolve burns deep.  Your resolve needs to be bigger than just a drive to accomplish.  That’s why I asked you about your purpose, your vision, and your passion.  I was reminded of this, just this week, as I was reading the book, That Used to Be Us, by Thomas Friedman and Michael Mandelbaum.  The book shares the following conversation with Diane Rosenberg, head of the Nueva School in Hillsborough, California (between San Francisco and Palo Alto).  Nueva is a school for gifted children, which has incredible resources and approaches that have earned it a well-deserved national reputation.

Rosenberg says that she and her colleagues approached the issue of how to nurture creativity by starting with a simple question: Who are the successful people in life?  “As we looked around,” she recalled, “the answer was that they were people who pursued their passion with a purpose. And they were all-in, in doing so.  They did it with their entire being, whatever it was.  They were pulled by something inside them, not driven.”

So I pose this to you: It’s not even two weeks into the New Year.  How’s your resolve?  High?  Higher?  Or dwindling?  Why?

If it’s high or higher, there’s a good chance you feel that pull.  You can’t help but surge forward.

If it’s dwindling or feeling like a lot of work, then you may not have connected your goals deeply enough.  You may have a whole other level that you can reach.

This is not to say that perseverance isn’t needed at times.  Believe me – it will be.  It’s not going to be purely smooth sailing, with a margarita in hand!

But, if your passion, purpose, vision, values, and mission are aligned with your goals, it’s amazing what comes your way, what opportunities reveal themselves to you, and how your future pulls you forward.

What are you going to do in order to feel and fuel that fire?

What are you going to do to build on the fire you feel burning inside?

It’s up to you.  You’ll get out whatever you put into this year (for better or worse)… in fact, you usually get a whole lot more.  It starts with you.

Live on Fire!

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

A Call for Resolve, Not Resolutions

January 4th, 2012

Forgive me, as this post will be a bit longer than usual, but I needed to get some things out.
There’s a character in Ayn Rand’s reputed and much discussed work, Atlas Shrugged, named John Galt.  In the first half of the book, characters, out of despair, use John Galt’s name as a reason to give up (meaning only a mythological, made up person like Galt could answer, solve, or fix this situation).  The story reveals that Galt is a real person (“character”) and, ultimately, comes to symbolize the power and potential of the human mind.

Why am I telling you this?  To be honest, I hear a lot of despair and resignation in conversations today.  Whether it’s in the corporate, education, non-profit, health care, or law enforcement communities (or, frankly, in the general life arena too), I often hear people talk about what can’t be changed, what can’t be solved, and how little power they have to change things.

We see a gridlocked political system, a struggling and complex economy, a discouraged and disengaged workforce, and we begin to question what’s possible. These are situations that have been in the making for quite some time. Despite how hard these past few years have been on a great many people, it may prove that this period in time was very much needed.

We needed to question ourselves — and the process is still going on — which is why I’m writing this now.  The process is at a critical time.  We are at a time of great choice.  We can continue to despair.  We can be apathetic.  We can even get angry and frustrated, and yell about what “they” have done to this country and the world (whoever “they” is).  We can continue to howl at the moon – but other than possibly providing a much-needed stress release, where’s the howling getting you? Us?

So here we are, another New Year has arrived, and with it, possibly, a list of resolutions ready to go.  How many of those resolutions have you seen on your list before (…perhaps even year after year)?

What’s the real purpose behind the resolutions that you’ve made?

For those past resolutions that you may have checked off and accomplished, it was for this reason (and the same reason why the others may still be on your list): you were RESOLUTE.  Let Congress pass resolutions (assuming Congress actually passes anything these days); instead, we need to be resolved.

Resolute (as defined by Webster)
(1)    marked by firm determination
(2)    bold, steady

If you’re going to be marked by firm determination, if you’re going to be bold, then you’re likely driven by a great sense of purpose – a purpose that’s aligned with your values, your vision, and a far-reaching, inspiring goal.

When setting your sights this year, consider:

-    What impact do you want to have on your life, career, or business?
-    What impact might you want to have on the lives, careers, or businesses of others?
-    Who do you want to be as you make these impacts?
-    How do you want to infuse what you do with your values and strengths?
-    How do you want to unleash the power and potential of your true capacity?
-    What does this suggest for a big, inspiring, perhaps extraordinarily audacious goal?

And last, consider why this big goal or vision is extremely important to you. What does it say about you and the mark you want to make on your life or in the world?

Don’t just make a resolution; be resolute.

Consider that this year, you’re the entrepreneur, musician, artist, creator, innovator, activator, initiator, finisher, leader, and lover.  A resolute fire burns inside us all. Will you let it fuel you to greatness…and beyond?  Or will you let it burn you up?

We – as a community, society, and a country – need you.  It’s time to stop waiting, to come back out, to speak up, to get involved, to take action, to lead.

If you haven’t heard your own inner voice calling for greatness, then here it is.  I’m calling you out – loudly, directly, overtly, and passionately. Will you answer?

Please share your insights and what you’re resolved to accomplish, and be, this year.

If this message speaks to you, and puts words to something you’ve felt but haven’t yet said, share it widely.  If nothing else, consider what this means to you and to your life, and how you’ll show up in it from this point forward.

Let’s roll.

Live on Fire!

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

A Year in Review and a Year in Preview

December 28th, 2011

As we ready ourselves to eat, drink, and be merry, I want to urge you to be sure to take time to reflect on the year that has passed. What are you most grateful for? What lessons have you learned? What purpose have you found in those difficult times that arose?

As I look back on this past year, I must admit that I’m amazed yet again by what the iPEC team and community has accomplished.

Our coaches have been sending us extraordinary stories about the shifts and results that their clients are experiencing. From Stacy Hartmann and her teen clients (with stories that literally brought tears to my eyes) … to Tambre Leighn helping cancer survivors reclaim their lives … to Marni Battista helping singles find love (within and with their matches) … to Ed Abel’s SkillPreneurs (many of whom are iPEC graduates!) skyrocketing to success … to Denice Hinden whose work in the non-profit area is changing lives every day ….to Rick Clemons who helps “gay men and straight women step courageously into their powerful truths”… and I could go on and on … and on.

To each of you - to every single one of you - I thank you for the difference you are making in this world.

And then there’s the iPEC team - this absolutely extraordinary group of people who I get to call my colleagues, who are truly my friends and my family - wow! You have launched, with energy and excitement, new programs to ignite engagement within Corporate America and our education system; you’ve supported, trained, and mentored over 700 new coaches and 4,000 graduates; you’ve connected and shared your stories online; you’ve conducted and published groundbreaking Energy Leadership research; and most importantly, you’ve brought countless smiles, tears, and unforgettable experiences to our students and graduates. I am inspired by you. You make this Institute what it is.

I hope you all have a fantastic holiday, and as you toast your champagne glasses as midnight strikes on the 31st, I hope you briefly close your eyes and catch a glimpse of the extraordinary year that awaits you.

Here’s to raising the consciousness of the world - one person at a time!

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

Hey You…Life is Waiting!

December 21st, 2011

Yes, YOU.

You who’s been putting off that big decision (you know the big one that requires change and transition) or that difficult conversation because you don’t want to upset the other person or don’t know how to have the conversation without it getting heated or causing an argument.

But wait, there’s you, too. Yes, YOU.

You who’s been thinking about undertaking that new project that’ll get you ahead, which you’re excited about, but you know a lot of people will be watching to see how you do and what makes you sweat.

It doesn’t matter how big or how small, there’s likely something that’s important to you right now, in some way, which you’re avoiding or putting off.  You may not be clear on what to do; you may be worried about some of the potential consequences (you know, the vivid and wonderfully creative stories of worst case scenarios that you’ve had running in the back of your mind). You may simply be afraid that it won’t work out as expected, even though you really, really want it to.

That’s life.  It wants to be lived.  It wants you to step into the moment and actually be there; be there in the moment — present, fully engaged, playing full out!  Life doesn’t have regrets, but you may if you don’t take action – if you don’t jump in and play.

Life won’t always (or even most of the time) go as expected.  Big surprise.  Get back up and put your confidence in the way you want to live your life, instead of life needing to be a certain way in order for you to enjoy it.  The joy is in the living; it’s in the process.

Whatever part of life is waiting for you, consider what small step you could take to get it moving again.  What’s one giant leap you could take?  What’s something in the middle that feels right – in terms of action, progress, and process?

Stop waiting; Live on Fire!

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

Being on the Journey

December 19th, 2011

Consider that life is about finding out who we are and why we’re here, experiencing all life has to offer, and enjoying the journey.  Many people, though, just try to make it through the day.

Some might say that they’re just tiptoeing through life, hoping to make it safely to death without causing too much trouble.

What do you think the journey of life is all about?

How well would you say your life reflects that definition?

If there are areas that don’t reflect your definition, whose definition have you been following and why? And what would you like to do to change that?

—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD
Founder,
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)