How well do you know happiness? Are you old friends, or do you need an introduction? If happiness is something that is elusive to you, you may not even be familiar with the feeling or the frame of mind.
Happy people expect happiness, and so, it is their default. They are generally happy, even though they get thrown for a loop every once in a while.
Other peoples’ default is unhappy, and it takes someone or something to make them change that default. That is the concept of the Law of Being; it’s the difference between being happy and being happiness. A person with an unhappy default can be happy (temporarily), but only a person with a happy default can be happiness.
So what is your default? Are you almost always happy, with it taking a lot to throw you off? Can you go either way on any particular day? Or, are you usually unhappy, needing something good to happen to shift you?
Understand your default tendency, and if it’s not what you want it to be, make a choice to shift it.
—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD
Founder, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
(Today’s blog is excerpted from iPEC’s self-mastery personal development program, The Law of Being.)