There’s a very good, well researched book by Teresa Amabile called, The Progress Principle , which lays out some simple, but very important insights on how progress can really fuel our enjoyment and engagement in what we do.
Let me provide a slightly different, Core Energy Coaching™ spin on one aspect of what Amabile has to share regarding “the key three events [that] powerfully undermine inner work life: setbacks in the work; inhibitors (events that directly hinder project work); and toxins (interpersonal events that undermine the people doing the work).”
Core Energy Coaching helps individuals to recognize the filters (our experiences, values, assumptions, beliefs, etc.) through which we view the world. These filters will either limit what we see (such as tunnel vision) or expand what we see (like a prism) and, thus, impact what we think about our circumstances and how we show up in different situations.
Setbacks, inhibitors, even toxins are all in how you perceive them. The most successful people (from Edison to Gates) will tell you that setbacks, inhibitors, and toxins were as much responsible for their success as were the times where things flowed along.
What would happen if more people could run into one of these events and, instead of reverting to a stress response, they are exhilarated to see where the event will lead?
What would happen if those challenging interpersonal events were recognized as moments to breakthrough and lead… to make a real difference to yourself and someone else?
What if these typical stressors were recognized as springboards – fully engaging in the challenge of the moment, but knowing that the rebound is going to propel you forward even faster?
Core Energy Coaching shows you how to become aware of your filters, explore and understand what they are and are not telling you, and then identify your options so that you can more consciously choose the path that’ll best lead to where you want to go. The more you go through this “processing,” the more the patterns of your life reveal themselves so that you can design in a way that truly allows you to design how you want to lead and live.
So, for the next setback that comes your way, start asking, “what can I do with this to slingshot myself forward?”
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)