It’s your Choice

August 30th, 2010

Start your week with some inspiration from iPEC!

Victim or Leader? You Choose!

“You should never say anything to a woman that even remotely suggests you think she’s pregnant unless you can see an actual baby emerging from her.”

I love this joke and included it as one of our weekly messages for a reason other than humor. Too many people take life too seriously and things too personally. Sometimes, due to our worrying about upsetting another person, we hold back from connecting with them.

Instead of that, being open and honest will lead to a greater connection. Just keep one thing in mind: if your intentions are pure, then a simple apology will clean up anything that may have been received as inappropriate.

This week, instead of worrying about what people think, with love, let them know a little about what you think.

—Bruce D Schneider, MCC,
Founder, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

www.ipeccoaching.com

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Challenge, instead of Holding Back

August 23rd, 2010

Start your week with some inspiration from iPEC!

“When trouble arises and things look bad, there is always one individual who perceives a solution and is willing to take command. But sometimes that individual is crazy!”

Just a lighthearted quote to remind us all that one of two things occurs when someone takes the lead in a crisis. Either the leader is on target and the challenge is on its way to being ameliorated, or the leader is off track and leads others into further chaos.

How can you know which is the case? Instead of blindly responding to someone, even if they are in charge, ask them how they came to the conclusion they did. Oftentimes, you will hear something that doesn’t make sense, and your “two cents” may just help.

This week, if you’re facing a challenging situation and someone offers a solution, ask for clarification before responding.

—Bruce D Schneider, MCC,
Founder, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

www.ipeccoaching.com

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Is Your Life a Gain or a Drain?

August 16th, 2010

Start your week with some inspiration from iPEC!

As most of you know, we are all energy. Energy is either anabolic (this builds you up) or catabolic (this breaks you down). It’s important to note that everything in our lives, including tasks, goals, relationships, jobs, etc., are either anabolic or catabolic as well.

Consider all the things in your life that help you, or hinder you, from being the best you can be with the most energy. To get the most energy out of life, you’ll need to decide what energy (people, places, and things) you want to keep, and what you want to let go.

This week, make gain/drain inventory for the people, places, and things in your life and think about making some adjustments.

—Bruce D Schneider, MCC,
Founder, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

www.ipeccoaching.com

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Where Your Past Meets Your Future: Finding a Unique Niche within the Life Coaching Industry

August 11th, 2010

By Guest Blogger Ryan Stanley, CPC

When I first decided to become a Life Coach, a lot of people I knew expressed concern about how I would be able to relate to all of the challenges that may come from the diversity of working with different types of people.

“How are you going to be an expert in everything?”

“Why would someone who is 20 years older than you want to go to you for advice?”

Now, after going through iPEC’s coach training program, I’m aware that I don’t need to be an expert in anything except the coaching process (specifically the Core Energy Coaching™ process) itself. I also now know that I’m not really giving any advice at all, as much as I am reflecting the clients’ concerns and challenges in a positive, personal format which enables them to gain new perspectives on what some solutions to those concerns and challenges may be.

But of course, when people decide that they want to be a life coach, they don’t know any of that yet. What they do know is that they enjoy seeing others become happy, healthy, and successful. So naturally, some of those same questions that my friends were asking me in regards to the challenges of becoming a Life Coach begin to pop up and block some potentially amazing coaches from taking their first steps to be a life coach.

Ironically, once someone goes through the program to become a Certified Professional Coach, a very common conversation that they end up having with clients is all about the client deciding what they really want out of life. What types of people do they want to surround themselves with? What kind of conversations do they want to be having at their work place on a daily basis?

It’s these type of questions which also often helps coaches begin to identify a niche or specific type of clientele. For whatever reason, it’s our nature as humans to think that any obvious answer is ‘too easy’ and it’s ‘got to be harder than that.’ The truth is, there are no rules about how to choose your clientele. You already have a wealth of personal experiences. And you know the type of people who you enjoy interacting with.

Consider: What do you love to talk about on a regular basis?

If it’s one thing that the development of internet and social networks has taught me, it’s that no matter what your hobby or personal interest may be, there are thousands, if not millions of people out there in the world with an equally focused interest in that exact subject. And if it’s one thing that becoming a life coach has taught me, it’s that every one of those people can benefit from having a life coach.

And when you’re working with a client, and you’re able to combine your common passion for that specific something with the coaching process, you end up having deep, engaged conversations about something that you both love.  And guess what? “Coincidentally” these conversations often end up having the client finding themselves on a clearer path to a happy, healthy and successful life.

Believe it or not, choosing a niche can be that easy. Your product is joy. Your target clients are people that you would love to talk to about a subject that is closely aligned with who you both are.

Oh, and by the way. Just because you choose a niche doesn’t mean that you can’t coach anyone else. If you’re good at what you do, chances are you’ll attract clients from all walks of life. It also doesn’t mean that you can’t change your niche. Be a coach. Enjoy the ride. You and your clients deserve it.

RMS

PS. Outside of my passion here at iPEC (which essentially is building successful relationships), I also coach within the music industry.  I had the pleasure of recently being interviewed for Play It Loud Music.  You can check out the interview here, Play It Loud Music’s Blog Thanks again!

Ryan is the Director of Strategic Alliances here at iPEC. He is also a band manager, screenwriter and Professional Life Coach. To find out more about Ryan’s journey to becoming a coach and his niche of choice, check out the blog/interview series above that he was recently asked to be a part of.  You can also find him on FaceBook at www.facebook.com/RMS.Life.Coach or check out his website at www.ryanstanley.com.

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Get Busy

August 10th, 2010

How often do you find yourself not moving forward with action steps towards a goal just because you’re waiting for something else to happen first?  And, how often do you allow this to become an obstacle to moving forward – getting stuck in perpetual limbo?

Many times we feel that we don’t have control over the progress of our lives because of some other factor or person.

“I’ll start that project when I get the proper funding.”

“I can’t set that call up with the prospect until Joe gets me all of the details!”

“I need to think this through further and understand all the angles before I move forward.”

It’s quite normal to want to feel prepared and have everything in place for the best start before actually beginning.  But at what point does it become paralysis by analysis?  Your excuse for not “getting out there”?  Or your story for postponing action?

Waiting can be a form of self defense — fearing that either we will ‘get hurt’ or ‘look bad’ by not succeeding.  We look for this ‘X’ factor that somehow will make it all come together just perfectly… and so we wait.  We spend so much time and energy convincing others and ourselves of all the reasons that we shouldn’t or can’t move forward.  We miss the very point that the ‘X’ factor has been there all along… sitting in the mirror.

It’s at these times of “waiting” that we need to ask ourselves, what’s really holding us back?  If I had that missing piece of information, that feedback from whomever, that ‘X’ factor that I’ve been waiting on, what could I then do?  What are 3 others ways I could make some progress toward my goal without waiting?

Consider that there are other options.  Consider that it may be fear that’s holding you back.  Consider what it would take and most importantly what it would feel like – despite the fear and desire to ‘wait’ until the stars are aligned – to take action, to get busy, to muster up the courage and press forward knowing that you will be able to do the best you can at the moment?  How might this “Get Busy” attitude create a whole new paradigm for your life?

“Perhaps by putting together people and pieces for this project I’ll come across new avenues for funding and be that much further along when the money comes along.”

“I should call that prospect and find out what her schedule looks like so that we can set up a call. This will keep us in contact and move things along. I’ll ask Joe to get in on the call so he’s aware of the timeline and feels some level of urgency with regards to that info that I requested from him”

We all have a choice in every moment. How do you want to focus your thoughts and energy?

Which would you prefer:  to stand still and look at what didn’t happen; or, to move forward with passion and excitement looking forward to what will happen next?

We all have RESPONSE-ABILITY – that is, the ability to respond, the ability to make things happen, the ability to set the example for what we want to ask of others, and the energy to not only take action, but to inspire others to take action as well.

So what’s it going to take for you to “get busy”?

D. Luke Iorio
President and CEO

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