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A Call for Resolve, Not Resolutions

January 4th, 2012

Forgive me, as this post will be a bit longer than usual, but I needed to get some things out.
There’s a character in Ayn Rand’s reputed and much discussed work, Atlas Shrugged, named John Galt.  In the first half of the book, characters, out of despair, use John Galt’s name as a reason to give up (meaning only a mythological, made up person like Galt could answer, solve, or fix this situation).  The story reveals that Galt is a real person (“character”) and, ultimately, comes to symbolize the power and potential of the human mind.

Why am I telling you this?  To be honest, I hear a lot of despair and resignation in conversations today.  Whether it’s in the corporate, education, non-profit, health care, or law enforcement communities (or, frankly, in the general life arena too), I often hear people talk about what can’t be changed, what can’t be solved, and how little power they have to change things.

We see a gridlocked political system, a struggling and complex economy, a discouraged and disengaged workforce, and we begin to question what’s possible. These are situations that have been in the making for quite some time. Despite how hard these past few years have been on a great many people, it may prove that this period in time was very much needed.

We needed to question ourselves — and the process is still going on — which is why I’m writing this now.  The process is at a critical time.  We are at a time of great choice.  We can continue to despair.  We can be apathetic.  We can even get angry and frustrated, and yell about what “they” have done to this country and the world (whoever “they” is).  We can continue to howl at the moon – but other than possibly providing a much-needed stress release, where’s the howling getting you? Us?

So here we are, another New Year has arrived, and with it, possibly, a list of resolutions ready to go.  How many of those resolutions have you seen on your list before (…perhaps even year after year)?

What’s the real purpose behind the resolutions that you’ve made?

For those past resolutions that you may have checked off and accomplished, it was for this reason (and the same reason why the others may still be on your list): you were RESOLUTE.  Let Congress pass resolutions (assuming Congress actually passes anything these days); instead, we need to be resolved.

Resolute (as defined by Webster)
(1)    marked by firm determination
(2)    bold, steady

If you’re going to be marked by firm determination, if you’re going to be bold, then you’re likely driven by a great sense of purpose – a purpose that’s aligned with your values, your vision, and a far-reaching, inspiring goal.

When setting your sights this year, consider:

-    What impact do you want to have on your life, career, or business?
-    What impact might you want to have on the lives, careers, or businesses of others?
-    Who do you want to be as you make these impacts?
-    How do you want to infuse what you do with your values and strengths?
-    How do you want to unleash the power and potential of your true capacity?
-    What does this suggest for a big, inspiring, perhaps extraordinarily audacious goal?

And last, consider why this big goal or vision is extremely important to you. What does it say about you and the mark you want to make on your life or in the world?

Don’t just make a resolution; be resolute.

Consider that this year, you’re the entrepreneur, musician, artist, creator, innovator, activator, initiator, finisher, leader, and lover.  A resolute fire burns inside us all. Will you let it fuel you to greatness…and beyond?  Or will you let it burn you up?

We – as a community, society, and a country – need you.  It’s time to stop waiting, to come back out, to speak up, to get involved, to take action, to lead.

If you haven’t heard your own inner voice calling for greatness, then here it is.  I’m calling you out – loudly, directly, overtly, and passionately. Will you answer?

Please share your insights and what you’re resolved to accomplish, and be, this year.

If this message speaks to you, and puts words to something you’ve felt but haven’t yet said, share it widely.  If nothing else, consider what this means to you and to your life, and how you’ll show up in it from this point forward.

Let’s roll.

Live on Fire!

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

Hey You…Life is Waiting!

December 21st, 2011

Yes, YOU.

You who’s been putting off that big decision (you know the big one that requires change and transition) or that difficult conversation because you don’t want to upset the other person or don’t know how to have the conversation without it getting heated or causing an argument.

But wait, there’s you, too. Yes, YOU.

You who’s been thinking about undertaking that new project that’ll get you ahead, which you’re excited about, but you know a lot of people will be watching to see how you do and what makes you sweat.

It doesn’t matter how big or how small, there’s likely something that’s important to you right now, in some way, which you’re avoiding or putting off.  You may not be clear on what to do; you may be worried about some of the potential consequences (you know, the vivid and wonderfully creative stories of worst case scenarios that you’ve had running in the back of your mind). You may simply be afraid that it won’t work out as expected, even though you really, really want it to.

That’s life.  It wants to be lived.  It wants you to step into the moment and actually be there; be there in the moment — present, fully engaged, playing full out!  Life doesn’t have regrets, but you may if you don’t take action – if you don’t jump in and play.

Life won’t always (or even most of the time) go as expected.  Big surprise.  Get back up and put your confidence in the way you want to live your life, instead of life needing to be a certain way in order for you to enjoy it.  The joy is in the living; it’s in the process.

Whatever part of life is waiting for you, consider what small step you could take to get it moving again.  What’s one giant leap you could take?  What’s something in the middle that feels right – in terms of action, progress, and process?

Stop waiting; Live on Fire!

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

Control Issues

November 9th, 2011

Those who choose greatness choose to focus on that which can be controlled.

Many people get caught up solely focusing on the result or on the outcome, and they get attached to it.  But there are many factors outside of our control that ultimately produce a result.  We’re all part of a system, an environment, a team, an organization, etc., and all of those outside factors influence the end result.

However, we can control the process we use to achieve greatness.  We can put our focus in the steps we take, in how we show up, in the way we engage, and in the effort and energy we put out.

We can’t control whether our team member or spouse has a bad day and is downright grumpy.  We can control how we choose to relate to them at those times.  Their bad day is just that: theirs!  It doesn’t have to be yours.

It gets to be much tougher to walk this line when you really, really want the result you’re after.  You want to build your business to the point that it’s thriving; you want to pull off the big project at work; you want to raise your children to be brilliant and caring individuals.

It’s great to have goals — they’re absolutely necessary to setting direction for yourself.  However, the goal is a result – a result of a process, steps, actions, and many other factors that may be beyond your control.  The process, your steps, your actions, and your decisions are all within your control.  If something doesn’t work out as expected, do you tank?  Do you try to figure out who’s to blame or what got in the way?  Or do you look at your process and determine where you go from here, based upon what you’ve experienced and now know?

The latter will always achieve progress.  You may not always get what you expect; you may not always get the results you want; but, if you focus on the process of achieving your results, I can guarantee you’re a whole lot more likely to be consistently successful.

Stay aware.  Keep progressing.  Focus on where you can make the biggest or most important difference at any time.  Be persistent.  Celebrate the so-called failures.  Enjoy your success.

Live on Fire!

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

Progress – Not Just a Goal, but a Principle

October 5th, 2011

A quick recap and two take-away strategies that I sure hope you use.

I recently finished reading a great new book, The Progress Principle, by Theresa Amabile.  Boiling down and oversimplifying the point of the book, it asserts — supported by tremendous research — that people are most satisfied and engaged (thus, in a better mood) when they’re making progress on meaningful work.

Progress needs to be measurable and specific, but doesn’t necessarily need to be momentous.  Steady steps and small wins are just as important as big leaps forward.

As for meaningful work, well, that means the work has a purpose that aligns the individual’s sense of contribution and values with the goals and values of the organization and/or project.

There are many things that can both support progress (“catalysts,” as Amabile puts it), and take away from it (“setbacks”).

Which leads me to my two cents. The catalysts and setbacks described in the book are truly about the environment in which you’re situated and the way in which you react to your perceptions of how progress is being achieved.

Note the italicized text.  Progress is truly perception of progress.  Yes, there are environmental factors (meaning the culture of the organization, people you work with, etc.); however, it’s your perception that determines whether something is a catalyst or a setback.

When a project doesn’t go as planned, how disappointed do you get?  And, how excited do you get?  Consider what the disappointment is about and contrast that with this question: What about this so-called failure is absolutely perfect in order to slingshot me forward?

I’ll even re-use the old, worn-out Edison story here because it highlights the point.  Upon failing to invent the light bulb for the gazillionth time, Edison’s assistant asks him how he can deal with the repeated failure.  Edison mythically replies, “Son, I just discovered the gazillionth way to not invent the light bulb.”  Ok, so maybe it wasn’t a gazillion – but that’s how often I’ve heard this story… and it’s still important.

The point is this: success is how you perceive progress! And it’s completely within your control.  And, by the way, Edison used those so-called failures to launch a number of inventions that would never have been possible without “failing” so often.

Ok, so you can manage your perceptions, and I can promise you that managing them in the moment — at that very time when you realize your expectations won’t be met (and you get disappointed) — is the toughest time to do it.

Which leaves two options:

-    If you’re already there, with unmet expectations and disappointment, be okay with it!  It’s okay to be disappointed when you’ve invested a lot of yourself into something.  And forgive yourself, and those around you, for it not working out as planned. Seriously, what ever actually goes exactly as planned?  Even great successes?  Next, start asking yourself questions about what aspects went right.  What were the best practices you can take away from this experience?  What learning can you apply to your next attempt? And so on…

-    And here’s the preferable method: BE PRESUMPTIVE, which means setting your expectations — ahead of time — to consider that things may not go as planned.  Focus on how you can evaluate what’s going on and use all the data and information that’s coming back to you to make progress.  Pre-determine how setbacks are likely blessings in disguise.  Set a purpose and intention for those setbacks before they even occur.  This isn’t planning to fail; it’s planning to get back up even when you’ve been knocked down.  It’s about being resolved to see it through.  It’s about creating opportunity and possibility from what others may not see.  It’s about leading — leading yourself and leading others — because in the face of a so-called setback, you’ll be the one who’s calm, collected…and even excited!

Progress is your perception.  Your perception is your choice.

Sorry – I know it’s easier to let circumstances dictate your progress; it’s easier to let those other forces lead, but leaders lead. And they do so because they CHOOSE to lead.

Live (and Lead) on Fire!

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

What Goes Around Comes Around

September 12th, 2011

This week, I’ll stray from my traditional messages to share a story I heard — and love.

His name was Fleming, and he was a poor Scottish farmer. One day, while trying to make a living for his family, he heard a cry for help coming from a nearby bog. He dropped his tools and ran to the bog. There, mired to his waist in black muck, was a terrified boy, screaming and struggling to free himself. Farmer Fleming saved the lad from what could have been a slow and terrifying death.

The next day, a fancy carriage pulled up to the Scotsman’s sparse surroundings. An elegantly dressed nobleman stepped out and introduced himself as the father of the boy Farmer Fleming had saved.

“I want to repay you,” said the nobleman. “You saved my son’s life.”

“No, I can’t accept payment for what I did,” the Scottish farmer replied, waving off the offer. At that moment, the farmer’s own son came to the door of the family hovel.

“Is that your son?” the nobleman asked.

“Yes,” the farmer replied proudly.

“I’ll make you a deal. Let me provide him with the level of education my own son will enjoy. If the lad is anything like his father, he’ll no doubt grow to be a man we both will be proud of.” And that he did. Farmer Fleming’s son attended the very best schools and, in time, graduated from St. Mary’s Hospital Medical School in London, and went on to become known throughout the world as the noted Sir Alexander Fleming, the discoverer of Penicillin.

Years afterward, the same nobleman’s son who was saved from the bog was stricken with pneumonia. What saved his life this time? Penicillin. The name of the nobleman? Lord Randolph Churchill. His son’s name? Sir Winston Churchill.

Someone once said: What goes around comes around.

—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, Founder
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)