Coaching Excellence blog

Forging Your Own Path

February 7th, 2013

One of the greatest American poets, Robert Frost, wrote:

Two roads diverged in a wood and I,
I took the one less traveled by,

and that has made all the difference.”

I recall reading this classic poem, “The Road Not Taken,” in grammar school. Even so, an aspect of my mind that has long amazed me is the interesting assortment of things that I remember, as well as the many things (no doubt) of which I have absolutely no recollection.

What amazes me even more are the crystal clear reappearances of memories that seemed long forgotten – often as clear as if they happened only yesterday.

A book, a movie, or a song will light a candle of thought, which quickly becomes an inferno of details, that hadn’t stirred in my mind in ages.

Unwinding at the end of a day, recently, I came across the movie, “Dead Poets Society” on TV. If you’ve never seen it, I highly recommend watching it. In one scene, Robin Williams’ character was explaining to his class the importance of trusting in their beliefs and cherishing their individual uniqueness, even if the “herd” finds them odd or unpopular.  He then proceeded to quote Frost’s celebrated poem.

I thought, “such inspiring wisdom to impart; such a wonderful seed to plant in young minds.”

Suddenly, as if a switch was flicked on, I was transported back to that rainy day as I sat at my desk (second row, third seat over) in Mrs. Connolly’s English class, reading that poem for the first time. 

I realize now that the seeds it had sown had grown within me over the years. It’s amazing how an instance from childhood can quickly become so clear.  Something that seemed so insignificant to twelve-year-old me played a significant role in who I’ve become.

I’ve learned that it’s often easier and safer to take the established route or the paved road. At times, it may be the more convenient and quicker avenue too, but it’s not as fun or challenging or exciting as forging your own path. 

I don’t know if Frost could’ve foreseen the impact he’d have on a twelve-year-old boy, or if that was even his intent. I like to think he was just following his own “road not taken” and living truthfully, fulfilling what he knew was his purpose. Regardless, he planted a seed within me, one that firmly took root, and inspired me to forge a unique path to fulfilling my own purpose.

What path have you forged or are you now forging? What difference has that made in your life and in the lives of those around you?

Live on Fire!

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

I Dare You!

December 14th, 2012

I think we’re all familiar with the game, “Truth or Dare.” As an adolescent, you may have had to admit to what you thought was an embarrassing truth about yourself or, even worse, kiss someone. Yuck!  How did we not catch the cooties from this?

Today, however, I’m not giving you the Truth choice. I’m just going to Dare you. Ready?

I dare you to:

Laugh – Too often we take things way too seriously. Laughter, as the saying goes, is the best medicine. Take a dose of that medicine today and have a good, hearty laugh. It’s a great antidote for stress, crankiness, low energy, and it offers a host of physical and mental benefits.

Double Dare – Make someone else laugh too!

Compliment Yourself – As we strive, every day, to be better than the day before, we frequently lose track of how great we already are! Take five minutes and tell yourself why you are so intrinsically awesome!

Double Dare – Compliment five other people.

Help Someone – One of the best ways to feel good about yourself is to do something for another person. Today, take the opportunity to lend a hand to someone in need.

Double Dare – Help a stranger.

Learn Something – If we aren’t learning, we aren’t growing. A vital part of continually developing ourselves is to be constantly discovering new things about the world we live in. Take a few minutes and expand your knowledge.

Double Dare – Teach somebody something new.

Exercise – Just as keeping our minds sharp is important, keeping our bodies well-tuned is too.  A brisk walk or ten pushups are not only physically good for you, but they clear the mind and relieve stress, as well.

Double Dare –Start a daily exercise regimen today.

Set a Goal – It can be a personal goal or a professional goal.  Either way, write it down and determine how you are going to obtain it.

Double Dare – Let others know what your goal is.

Add to this List – Post a comment daring you, me, and others to challenge ourselves by submitting your own dare.

And, though I may be breaching daring etiquette, I will triple-dog-dare each of us to do these things every day!

Live on Fire!

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

Exercising a Shift in Perspective

November 12th, 2012

Nurturing your body through regular exercise and proper nutrition is vital for keeping your body in the best shape it can be and for becoming the best version of yourself.  It’s a matter of connecting the choices you make with the outcomes you really want.

One way to begin shifting your perspective on exercise is to link it to who you are – to your values.

Is fun one of your values? Then make exercising a fun activity for you.

Is having time alone something you value? Then look at exercise as time for you – time you can be with yourself.

Is music something you love? Then combine exercise with music to help you enjoy it.

How do you connect the choices you make with what you really want?

—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD
Founder, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

(Today’s blog is excerpted from iPEC’s self-mastery personal development program, The Law of Being.)

What’s Your Stress Reaction?

October 22nd, 2012

What causes us to age, both biologically and emotionally?

It’s stress.

Stress taxes the body and mind, and usually results in people feeling as if they’re at the effect of life’s circumstances.

There are three main types of stress:

1. Physical Stress- on your body, from the work you do

2. Spiritual Stress- when your body, mind, and spirit aren’t consciously connected and you’re not following a purposeful path

3. Emotional Stress- caused by misperception of things that happen in your life

Everyone has stress in their lives and most people say they want less stress. But what people really want is to have less of a “stress reaction” to the things that are occurring in their lives and zapping their energy.

Don’t expect to eliminate stressors in life; it’s how you cope with them that matters.

When you notice that you’re feeling overwhelmed, what’s your strategy to regain control and lessen your stress reaction?

—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD
Founder, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

(Today’s blog is excerpted from iPEC’s self-mastery personal development program, The Law of Being.)

Create Your World

October 15th, 2012

When you’re being who you really are, you’ll attract people like you into your life. Since those who resonate with like energy will be attracted to you, if you’re at your highest potential, you’ll create a community, and a world, that resonates at that potential, too.

Your friends, your coworkers, your family—all those you touch in your life, and even those you don’t touch directly—will have their consciousness raised just by you raising yours.

There’s nothing you need to DO; when you’re “BEING the Change,” you’ll automatically create your own world and inspire others to greatness.

—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD
Founder, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

(Today’s blog is excerpted from iPEC’s self-mastery personal development program, The Law of Being.)