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September 1st, 2010
A Coach and Role Model
By Guest Blogger Shari Ciapka
I’m a Muppet fanatic to the core. It all began when my mom made me a Miss Piggy costume for Halloween, and I proudly paraded around the Lake Hiawatha Elementary School parking lot in my feather boa, pig ears, and cardboard snout. I aspired to be just like Miss Piggy as she epitomized the ultimate balance of glamour and feminine power. As I matured, however, I also became akin to Kermit the Frog’s disposition, which is really that of his creator, Jim Henson.
Jim Henson said; “When I was young, my ambition was to be one of the people who made a difference in this world. My hope is to leave the world a little better for my having been there.” There’s no doubt that Henson accomplished his goal by masterfully educating and entertaining people of all ages through his unique interaction between puppets and humans. His brilliant legacy will live on for generations to come.
There’s a deeply introspective scene in “The Muppet Movie”, in which Kermit and friends become stranded in the desert on route to Hollywood, possibly missing their big chance to become movie stars. In a conversation with himself, Kermit wonders why all of the Muppets have entrusted him with their dream. After all, he never promised them anything. In his dialogue, he finally realizes that everyone came along because they believed in the dream too, and the only one to whom he made a promise was himself. Kermit is a natural leader with a sense of humility and an innate ability to bring out the best in others – sounds a lot like iPEC coaches.
What can we learn from Kermit? Just because we’re coaches doesn’t mean that we have to “have it all figured out” or “have it all together” all the time. Why? Because the answers lie within our clients, of course. The important thing is that we are highly aware of our own thoughts, feelings, and actions, which allow us to self-coach, reach out to fellow coaches for assistance, and utilize our inner coach to guide others. All we need to bring to the table is an intuitive ear, a unique servicing system, and a promise to ourselves that we’ll be the best coaches we can be. Guided by Kermit, the Muppets ultimately make it to Hollywood, and they get their big movie deal. What legacy will you leave through coaching?
“Life’s like a movie. Write your own ending. Keep believing, keep pretending. We’ve done just what we set out to do, thanks to the lovers, the dreamers, and you.” ~ Kermit the Frog and “The Muppet Movie” cast.
About Shari Ciapka:
Shari’s mission through Sense Savvy Living (SSL) is to help people reveal the beauty in their everyday lives through the health and wellness of their five senses. She’s passionate that our senses are the precious intake system for how we experience the world, and they should not be taken for granted. Through SSL, Shari provides real-life ideas that will inspire, empower, and motivate you to touch, taste, smell, see, and hear your way to a sensational life. You can read more of Shari’s blog posts at her website, http://www.sensesavvyliving.com/, and also on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/Sense-Savvy-Living/176276913338
Tags: coach training, coaching, iPEC Coaching, role model Posted in Coaching and Coach Training No Comments »
August 31st, 2010
The educational system is at a turning point.
Though it has taken a beating in the past few years – shrinking budgets, increased regulation and complexity, greater job demands, and a lower influx of new teachers (i.e. new energy) — it is actually the perfect time to redefine the meaning of educational success, and as a community band together in its pursuit.
Children are not just their grades and test scores, their parents and the support they get, their individual aptitudes or emotional development, the classrooms they’re in or the teachers they have… it’s actually all of those things, and more.
Educational success must be measured by how well we are developing 21st century students who are global thinkers with strong communication, relationship, and team-working skills; and how well we are readying our young people to be the leaders of the future, able to flourish and thrive.
Our role as a community of engaged educators is to produce innovators, entrepreneurs, and contributors to society. By teaching our young people about decision making, about values, about emotions, and about the way they think, we are watering the seeds of greatness in each child.
Success can further be defined as our ability to provide excellent leadership to each student, utilizing coaching technology that brings out the full potential of each student. By providing robust tools that positively impact the whole child, across his or her life, and throughout his or her development, the Educational Leadership Coach Training program (www.CoachTrainingforEducators.com) allows professional educators to see more angles, understand the interconnectedness of diverse elements, and focus their efforts in a way that brings about positive, substantial, and sustainable change.
In the world in which we live today, our success as educators will depend on our ability to create a culture that is focused on “what’s right,” one in which parents and community, standing alongside our teachers, principals, and superintendents, see the greatness in every child, and are committed to that child’s intellectual, physical, and emotional well-being.
What will that new culture look like? Inside the classroom we’ll adopt new approaches, more deeply embedding multiple learning modalities, customizing lesson plans to the individual student, and demonstrating leadership and improving interpersonal skills through coaching competencies like intuitive listening and acknowledgement and validation.
Outside the classroom, we will lead through social interactions, getting our students involved in more than just academics, and encouraging them to become involved in their communities and to pursue their passions.
Some of these approaches have been in the works and are in use today; other approaches are still in the making to figure out what’s going to best educate students based on today’s requirements.
In order to meet those requirements, we need to become even more aware of all the factors that are impacting our children – to recognize that when students don’t feel physically and emotionally safe, true learning doesn’t happen. When students are hungry, they must be fed. When they are afraid and lack confidence, they must be reassured. Their basic needs have to be met so that their minds are free to learn.
We need to set up an environment that is risk free, and to nurture and support students every day, no matter how they show up to class in the moment. We need to empower students to come up with their own answers and to view situations from a holistic perspective. We need to learn to trust that they can lead themselves, and that they can learn how to make effective decisions that factor in many perspectives.
So who do educational leaders and other professional educators need to become to deliver on this new vision?
We need to become great leaders and great coaches. As more and more effective educators develop their true ability to lead and use the power of coaching, more and more children will mirror those forms of positive communication that seek to bring forth the inner brilliance and worth of each person.
Written by Alan Cohen
Tags: coach training, education, educational coach training Posted in Coaching and Coach Training, Energy Leadership, Upcoming Events & Workshops No Comments »
June 10th, 2010
By Guest Blogger and iPEC Trainer, Alan Cohen
I was relaxing last Sunday morning and happened to catch a bit of the men’s final of the French Open. As a tennis fan, it was great to see one of the greats in Rafael Nadal back at the top of his game. (For your information in case you’re not a tennis fan, Nadal won his fifth French Open title, and his seventh Grand Slam overall.)
But more than it being great to see him back at the top, I got to thinking about him as an athlete and a person. Tennis is a game that requires unbelievable balance. So much of the game is getting your opponent out of position and off balance. In fact, if you ever take a little bit of time and watch the top players play, you’ll certainly be able to see what I mean. Players who are off-balance, trying to hit a shot, rarely succeed in their efforts.
There are so many features of a good, balanced shot in tennis. Just look at the photo of Nadal’s backhand. His feet provide the base for his shot. This is where every shot is made or lost. With feet in the wrong place, other parts of his body will have to make up for the un-balance.
Just like the legs provide the base, the same metaphor works in life. We get to choose where our feet are, what our base is like. A lot is written about work/life balance, and that’s all well and good, but the biggest key is simply understanding where you want your life to be. You have to understand what your base is and build from there.
In the last year, not only was Nadal battling injuries, but his family life was falling apart (his parents got a divorce). He struggled to find balance in his life and in his tournament schedule. But he’s back. He made a choice.
What about you? What choices are your facing that could help you find balance in your life?
Alan Cohen
Acts of Balance, Inc.
Executive Coaching and Public Relations Consulting
www.actsofbalance.com
Tags: Balance, change, coach training, motivation, success Posted in Coaching and Coach Training 1 Comment »
February 19th, 2010
It’s one of the toughest times ever — both for those out of work and perhaps, even more, for those who have held on to their jobs. The plain fact is that employees need to cover more work with less available resources in order for their companies to survive, let alone thrive. Employers, on the other hand, require employees who understand just how much is at stake and who are just as invested as the top executives are in making things work.
Employers have been able to hold onto top talent because of the poor economy, but that may no longer be enough to retain those high performers, especially when the economic climate improves. The number of Americans who reported being happy with their careers dropped to an all-time low — 45 percent — in a new Conference Board survey that found people are more miserable than ever in nearly every aspect of their work lives.
What can you, as an employer, do to increase motivation and engagement and help those employees you value through challenging times? How can you, as a leader, set the tone and motivate and inspire your team, leading to a happier and more productive workplace? (Remember, when things get better, you don’t want to lose your best workers - retraining and rehiring is an expensive proposition!)
Employees are looking for true leaders…who can talk AND walk like true coaches! “Nothing is better than a leader who understands the value of the coaching process, who learns from his or her own coach, and then takes those skills into the workplace to develop and lead a team,” comments Ed Abel, President of Abel Institute, an international leader in business coaching, whose company develops business owners into powerful business leaders.
Here are just a few great skills that all leaders can develop, courtesy of iPEC Coaching:
• Share the vision and empower employees to contribute their ideas and give feedback. Ask more questions than you answer, and seek to get “buy in” to the plan. Ask questions like, “what does the plan need in order to make it work for you?”
• Don’t make promises you can’t keep – employees appreciate honesty! Level with your team and show that you are committed to helping them.
• Listen to your employees’ concerns, and acknowledge and validate their fears. Focus not only on “what” they say, but on the context of the message (where are they truly coming from? why are saying what they are saying? what does their tone tell you? other non-verbal cues?).
• Celebrate successes and give recognition. Adam Gostick and Chester Elton, in “The Carrot Principle: How Great Managers Use Employee Recognition,” write “For organizations that do it right, it’s a bit like discovering gold in your backyard. Employee recognition, long considered a benefit that costs money, can actually be a management tool that makes money.”
• Find out what internal drivers motivate your employees (it’s not a one size fits all approach) — is it more exposure, creative outlets, time off, etc? What else will speak to their individual needs? Then create opportunities that play to these drivers.
• Lead by example, and with integrity: D. Luke Iorio, President of iPEC Coaching comments, “It’s often been said that true leaders emerge when times are tough – it’s what you do in the difficult times that makes you a leader; and this is when your integrity will be tested the most… When your actions match your message and your decisions match your principles, others view you as genuine, authentic and trustworthy. They will follow your lead.”
Tags: achievement, adversity, attitude, business coach, coach training, encouragement, intentions, leadership, mentor coach, opportunity, workforce engagement Posted in Business Development, Coaching and Coach Training, Current Affairs, Energy Leadership, Life Potentials 28 Comments »
November 10th, 2009
Seeing patterns, connections and clarity when others may not…
Through Chaos a Coach sees Order
Through Challenge and Stress a Coach sees Opportunity and Clarity
Through Tragedy a Coach sees Purpose
Through Conflict a Coach sees Growth
Through Anger a Coach sees Understanding
Through Others a Coach sees Themselves
Through Themselves a Coach sees Others
While many individuals are usually constraint by one or if they are lucky 2 or 3 different perspectives, a coach is trained to see a situation from a 360 degree view. Because of their unique vision a coach sees many more choices, options, possibilities than their client can. A coach can broaden the clients’ view, so that the client can empower themselves to take meaningful action from their new vantage point.
The coach considers all aspects of a situation and all aspects of life, and helps the client to continually investigate life from new angles. Because of this bigger picture, coaches are often very relaxed in times of stress and challenge. Whether you know the final result or not, the coach can often see that an answer is just around the corner with this vision. The world is an exciting place, filled with passion, enthusiasm, and growth… this is the world as seen through a coach’s eyes!
Who would you like to help to see life and work from a completely new perspective? What difference would this make to them?
And… what difference might this vision, outlook and skill set make in your life?
Tags: Add new tag, attitude, become a coach, calling, change, choice, coach training, coaching, coaching skills, creativity, finding purpose, life coach, life coaching, life potential, perspective, power of choice Posted in Coaching and Coach Training, Energy Leadership, Law of Being, Life Potentials 7 Comments »
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