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April 1st, 2011
In my previous post, we explored the scenarios for making change and why, so often, individuals revert to their old patterns, after making a change, instead of moving forward.
Now, let’s take a look at what a coach would do to help facilitate the often challenging, and fear-inducing, act of change.
A coach would recognize your fear as a sign - a sign that you’re looking for a clearer plan (with contingencies), so that you can have more confidence to implement the change you so desire; a sign that you are indeed on the right path because change (real, significant change) is known to bring up fear; a sign that your subconscious wants to figure out how to hold onto your “good parts,” to not leave them behind, while surging forward on your path to change.
Once recognizing these signs:
You’d immediately shift your energy.
You’d question your perceptions.
You’d begin to challenge fear, while simultaneously using it as fuel to push you forward.
You’d look to surround yourself with the right advocates, and support team, to help you follow through with your plans.
You’d figure out what you need to bridge the gap of time between now and when the change really takes hold.
And, most importantly, you’d know how to spot those small, yet absolutely crucial milestones (those “small wins”) that cause you to think, “Wow, not only is it possible, it’s actually happening!”
Don’t shy away from change.
Don’t let the environment pull you back to what’s easiest and most familiar.
Set yourself up for success.
Play full out, and make that change happen.
And until next time, Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: achievement, business coach, choice, coach training, expectations, finding purpose, intentions, iPEC Coaching, life coaching, new perspective, power of choice, self-improvement, success, workforce engagement
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March 30th, 2011
Last week, we shared a few inspiring stories of tremendous response-ability. And, as I’m sure you realized, inspiration often comes from the most amazing and unexpected of places. It can be found anywhere and everywhere. You’ll even find inspiration in yourself if you’ll just look for it!
You know those moments when life pushed back on you, and you decided to simply step back, look around, and take another path to where you wanted to go? Those moments where you should have faltered, you should have let the weight of the world slow you down? Instead, you simply shrugged, and kept moving. Not sure yet? Then let’s create some inspiration with your response-ability, and then you’ll realize you’ve had this ability all along.
• What situations do you have in your life that you feel are beyond your control?
• What have you been trying to achieve, but are losing momentum because it just hasn’t happened yet?
• What does someone close to you do that really pushes your buttons, or you feel shows a lack of caring for you?
• How are you reacting to these situations, instead of responding?
Reactions are instinctual; they’re ingrained… they’re the unconscious, automatic behaviors that get triggered by difficult situations.
Responses (and practicing your response-ability), on the other hand, are conscious. You take in the information around you – looking more widely, instead of narrowly. You take your emotions, perceptions, and even the pressure you feel to fire off that “gut instinct” reply and you pause – if ever so briefly – so that your circumstances are not in control of you. So, now for those situations above…
• What possible outcomes would you really like to have?
• How is what you’re doing, right now, getting you that?
• What are a few other responses that you could employ, which would bring you closer, or even help you achieve, what you’re really after?
• How are you going to put this new response into practice?
Response-ability is about slowing down just long enough to choose your response and, in doing so, breaking the cycle of unconscious behavior and changing the course of your day, your month, your year, and maybe even… your life!
So, what responses are you going to adopt in the next week to bring about the changes and results you want?
Until next time, Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: achievement, attitude, become a coach, coach training, expectations, intentions, leadership, life coach training, opportunity, personal achievement, power of choice, self-improvement, success
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March 23rd, 2011
Remember, life can never take from you, your response-ability – your ability to respond. This is why it’s personal to me; I hope it is to you as well.
When the doctor told Bruce D Schneider, founder of iPEC, that at 18 years of age – after being nearly crushed in a car accident, thanks to a drunk driver – he would likely never walk again, he could have succumbed to the mental anguish and believed the doctor. Instead, after failing repeated tests to prove the doctor wrong, he succeeded when no one else (but he) believed that he could. Just several days later, he walked out of the hospital, on crutches, but on his terms. He went on to become a highly competitive athlete, and to launch an institute that became a movement.
Bruce’s response-ability was not only to live a healthy life, but to make a difference doing so.
When the oncologist told my grandfather, Bill Roether, a marine-engineer, that he had a very rare and advanced form of lung cancer, he was also told he had four months to live — if he was lucky. He could have completely given up and waited for his life to end; instead, he moved himself and his wife across the country, so they could be with their family. He built her a house, got her moved in, and even provided me with my own personal Tuesdays with Morrie (er, Bill) sessions. He lived more than 18 months, and passed away just a week after my grandmother received the keys to her new house. I’m not sure whether he or us laughed more in our lives than during those 18 months. He’d go, but it’d be on his terms.
My grandfather’s response-ability was to live the remainder of his life as productively and as joyfully as possible. With that choice, he not only extended his life by more than a year, he forever changed my life as well.
These stories have touched me directly and personally, but, at the same time, it’s the everyday stories that inspire me most.
It’s the single mom who, in the face of mounting pressure and seemingly endless bills, takes the time to finish her degree, online, while also making sure to never miss reading bedtime stories to her son or helping him with his homework.
That’s yet another example of life showing me that I always have the chance to be clear and resolved on how I will live MY life.
It’s the rising number of women who have faced, and overcome, infertility in their own way – through persevering, through finding purpose in their struggles, or, perhaps, through adoption. Their response-ability is to choose to live life through loving, learning, and moving forward.
Think of these people in your life — those who recognize their response-ability and decide to do something with it. Take notice of them. Let their lives and their stories, inspire you.
Feel free to post those stories here, in the Comments, or share them on our Facebook page. If these stories inspire you, please let them inspire us too.
Until next time, Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: achievement, attitude, coach training, finding purpose, intentions, leadership, life coach training, new perspective, personal achievement, power of choice, self-improvement, success
Posted in Business Development, Coaching and Coach Training, D. Luke Iorio - iPEC CEO, Energy Leadership, Life Potentials, leadership
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March 18th, 2011
Achievement is always fueled by one key ingredient: YOU!
Your values and your purpose provide motivation. Your passion generates energy. Your commitment creates resolve. Your strengths enable progress. And, in combination with alignment, these all generate effortless performance and calculable results.
When was the last time you looked at your values, purpose, passion, energy, commitment, and strengths to determine how well aligned they were?
‘How do I know if they’re aligned?’ you ask? Great question!
Start with your purpose – that clear vision that you want to accomplish. How well does that purpose, or that vision, represent your values? How much energy and passion does it create inside of you, just visualizing it? How committed are you to achieving it?
Napoleon Hill said you should have a “burning desire” for the fulfillment of your purpose. How well does that describe you? What strengths do you have that are brought out in this work?
How well aligned are you? What do you need to adjust?
Don’t put this off. Align YOURSELF. Reread the formula above and compare it to your life, adjusting where you see fit. This will give you a chance to play the game with FULL ENGAGEMENT – fully bought in, fully aligned, fully committed, fully energized.
How much fun could you have living life like that? How little effort would “work” feel like?
What on earth are you waiting for?
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: attitude, become a coach, coach training, expectations, intentions, iPEC Coaching, leadership, life coach training, opportunity, personal achievement, perspective, possibilities, power of choice, self-improvement, workforce engagement
Posted in Business Development, D. Luke Iorio - iPEC CEO, Life Potentials, leadership
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March 16th, 2011
“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.”
– Robert Frost
Responsibility is a word that can cause some people to get excited, while causing others to cringe. In an age where it seems like we have no shortage of things for which we must be responsible, it’s very natural, and quite understandable, to desire a little less responsibility. Who wouldn’t like to have one less thing on their plate, or one less person or situation demanding their attention? Life can quickly find us in overwhelm mode, and it’s time to say, ENOUGH ALREADY!
… But not necessarily in the way that you think.
What we’ve lost sight of, perhaps, or where our perspective may have become skewed, is that we always have a choice. We’re only victims of our circumstances if we grant that power and authority to our circumstances. Situations – i.e., LIFE – will always unfold in an unpredictable manner, and change will always be a constant. So, why, exactly, are we so surprised by the unpredictability of life? Couldn’t you have predicted that?
In the end, what life can never take from you is your response-ability – your ability to respond.
Situations occur… So what?!
The boss calls and needs you to rearrange all of your priorities right now… So what?!
Your spouse calls and says, “Sorry, Hon… I can’t make it back in time to pick-up the kids. You’ll need to get them and drive them to the 34 different activities they’re involved in tonight.” So what?!
Your new girlfriend or boyfriend who just can’t do anything wrong finally does something wrong. So what?!
I’d like to list more serious situations around illness, death, finances, suffering in some way, but I don’t want to make light of the gravity of any individual’s personal situation; however, everyone has experienced such difficult times. Everyone has a burden they are shouldering (most likely unnecessarily), and everyone still has a choice to make! Everyone can still choose to respond in a way that enables them to move forward, to move on, to regain their happiness, and to follow their bliss.
It’s not necessarily easy… but it sure is freeing!
Stay tuned for more response-ability in upcoming posts. Until then, think about a typical situation that frustrates you or really upsets you. How will you choose to exercise your response-ability - now that you know that you have a choice in how you respond - the next time such a situation comes up?
Until next time, Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: achievement, attitude, coach training, intentions, leadership, life coach training, self-improvement
Posted in Business Development, D. Luke Iorio - iPEC CEO, Energy Leadership, Training Programs, Upcoming Events & Workshops, leadership
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