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September 26th, 2011
“You have thoughts, feelings, and emotions, but you are not your thoughts, feelings or emotions.” - Frances Vaughn
Life’s experiences often seem to cause us much anxiety, fear, and worry. That’s because we identify with the emotional experience that we are having at any given moment. We own the experience and allow it to become us, instead of simply observing the situation and the feelings that come.
This week, instead of “owning” any emotional reaction, try instead to feel what you feel without identifying with the feeling, and simply be an observer of the experience.
—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD
Founder, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
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September 14th, 2011
I commented, briefly, on the debt-ceiling debate, and it stirred a recurring theme that I see unfold in corporations and schools alike: one-sided agendas.
Hey, we’re human. We can only see so much at one time. And, naturally, what we see, and the actions we take, are driven by our own agenda. The challenge, however, is that the rest of the world is not necessarily here to fulfill our agenda, but rather to fulfill their own.
Interestingly, it’s the individuals who find a way to accomplish their goals, while, at the same time, helping us accomplish ours (either separately or through aligning agendas), who seem to be successful time and time again.
These individuals express an incredible flexibility in their persistence to achieve their goals. They recognize that gaining buy-in from others is an important step in progressing towards their own goals. To gain buy-in from others means having them clearly understand “what’s in it for me.” When you can incorporate another person’s agenda (and their stated benefits or goals), they’ll engage with you even more.
If the conversation stays one-sided, it’s very difficult to gain buy-in from other people, and, unless they clearly hear what’s in it for them, they’ll assume they’re working towards your agenda.
You know your agenda; so, get to know the agendas of the other people who may play an important role in you achieving your goals and see how you can create paths that enable everyone to get what they want. And, if you can’t see the path, take a step back. You’re likely too close to the details.
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
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June 29th, 2011
The Core Energy Coaching™ process takes everything that makes you who you are – your purpose, beliefs, values, strengths, etc. – and engages that capacity on the specific goal you want to achieve, the role at which you want to succeed, or the task you are undertaking.
This is Core Energy Coaching – the process by which you connect your inner purpose and passion (who you are) to your outer goals and strategies (what you do and how you do it). This process means that you’re developing your own unique success formula – it helps you figure out how YOU do things.
Consider for yourself:
• How do you want your values to show up in your role as a leader, educator, or parent?
• How does your current job reflect the overall purpose you have in life?
• Which of your strengths do you most enjoy using, and how are you currently using them to achieve your goals?
What do you believe you could accomplish if you were able to completely engage your full capacity, take action with courageous authenticity, and focus it all on what you want most?
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
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June 23rd, 2011
We’re excited to have Erika Wendy Schneider as our guest blogger today. At the ripe, young age of 15, Erika wrote this thoughtful paper on Coaching for one of her classes. Her perspective has no doubt been shaped and influenced by her dad, iPEC’s Founder & Chairman, Bruce D Schneider.
Life Coaching
“Going from functional to optimal [is what it’s about],” declares Deborah Van de Grift, V.P. of iPEC Coaching.
All forms of coaching—personal, business, and life—have been proven to work exceptionally well in the lives of individuals yearning for a chance, a change, and opportunities of various sorts. Coaching has evolved considerably over the years and never fails to impact one’s lifestyle when the client has an open mind and plenty of commitment. The right coach will help the client to a flourishing path using essential keys and building blocks to success.
Life coaching, using infiltrating techniques, indisputable focus, and accountability, is the prime method of moving on from the past, creating and indulging in long term goals, finding one’s purpose, and creating a desirable future.
“[Coaching is] an extraordinary and unique relationship designed to create a significant impact and sustainable results in all areas of a person’s life” (Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching).
While therapy and counseling concentrate on the past and how to cope, coaching is designed to assist the client in moving on from the past and looking to the future. Though coaching does recognize the past, as it’s what makes a person who they are in present day, coaching’s aim is for the client to learn from the past and transition from “why did this happen?” to “how can I learn and grow from what happened?”
Therapy aims to heal issues and create a healthy lifestyle and coaching’s focus is to take this concept to the next level, developing a remarkable lifestyle for an already healthy person.The objective is for the client to distinguish the essentiality of having goals and how they could be effectively put to use with the right attitude.
“While consulting is about the consultant delivering the right answers, coaching is about asking the right questions” (Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching).
The most important aspect of coaching is the accountability of the client. Depending on the willingness of the client, coaching will prove successful in expanding the capacity in which the client creates solutions for him or herself. The right coach—deciphered by the compatibility of each specific forte the client has—will help the client achieve enhancement of awareness and emotional intelligence while challenging his or her fundamental interpretations, conflicts within their comfort zone, and a perspective that is lacking in some significant way.
The client chooses their own goals, aided and guided by the coach, who, trained professionally into precision, will know just the right moment at the exact time to trigger an epiphany within the client and open up doors that have never been touched upon beforehand. With this, not only will the client find an abundant transition in the way s/he interacts with everyone around him/her, but how he/she sees and defines him or herself.
“My coach awakened me to discover the practical and realistic steps to actually turn my dream into reality,” says Gena Lindquist of Portsmouth, Virginia.
Finding an ideal career and taking full advantage is only one of the many accomplishments one could obtain after the process of working with a coach. In popular cases, clients will initially be reluctant to trust and listen to themselves, and will eventually feel refreshed and self-confident, knowing more about themselves than ever imagined.
Some who question their purpose of existence have found a satisfaction to their itch to discover why, realizing their focus is to live life to the fullest and do anything probable to make themselves known to not only the individuals around them, but themselves as well. They will learn to enjoy, rather than react to life. Clients will learn to acquire a voice, a mind, and a drive to be who they are: outstanding, excellent people ready to begin a brand new and brilliant lifestyle.
“Life coaches assist you to become the World’s Leading Expert on you!” (The Coach Connection).
Finding oneself is arguably the greatest challenge one could face over the course of life. To find themselves, people usually search outside, hoping someone or something will magically give them some answers. Of the many things coaching can do, one of the most powerful is to remind people that they already have the answers within themselves. Coaches empower people to remember those answers and not only find themselves, but see their place, and find their peace, in the world. With empowerment comes confidence, a perceptibly valuable shift within oneself and the ability to define and create an extraordinary life — precisely and appreciably from the core.
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June 22nd, 2011
How rigidly do you stick to your plan and perspective, despite the ever changing environment and unexpected twists and turns that inevitably arise along the way? C’mon, be honest. What do you feel in the moment you discover that something didn’t match up to what you were expecting? Frustrated? Defeated? Angry? How often do you find yourself pushing forward anyway, only to look back later and ask yourself, “What was I thinking? Why didn’t I just…?”
We like to think about playing the game by our rules, and not by other peoples’ rules.
Think about this: What would life and work be like if you were so comfortable and confident in your own abilities and intentions, that you could play the “game” by anyone’s rules, knowing that you could go with the flow and that your flexibility provided you the ability to create the best results for all involved – at any time?
What would that type of flexibility help you achieve?
The first step in being this flexible is to give up the need to be right. Know what your real goal is – meaning the target for which you’re aiming, and NOT the very specific strategies and tactics you feel must be employed to reach the goal. Focus on that real goal; know why it’s important to you. And now, place your focus elsewhere. You already know your goal and what you think. So now, focus on understanding what the other person is thinking… what’s important to them… what’s their real goal, etc.
Focus there, be flexible, and let the conversation flow. You may be surprised at the results and how often you’ll be able to align your goals with the goals of others.
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
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