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December 7th, 2011
As most of us were brought up, we were taught to share with others, to be nice, to not be selfish.
In his best-selling book, “Don’t Be Nice, Be Real,” Kelly Bryson puts forth the principle of, “me first and only.” It’s an idea of trying to perfect your selfishness. Now, that may sound contradictory to what we were taught by our parents and teachers, but it’s not a new concept. It’s enlightened self-interest, and recognizing that one of our greatest resources – maybe our greatest resource – is our relationship with other people.
Through the process of protecting our relationships with other people, we need to be very careful not to give anything out of obligation or duty. We shouldn’t be trying to buy love; if we do, we’ll have resentment. And resentment is the weed that creeps into the garden of love and chokes the life out of it. Anything we give is really for ourselves. If it’s coming from the mere joy of giving, then we’ve already gotten what we want in the giving, and we’re not expecting something back - because doing that isn’t love; it’s commerce.
Bryson also has this mythical thing in his mind, “the cup of great fullness.” He says, “I take a few sips out of that each morning - I call it my spiritual coffee.” He promotes exercise, but of the spiritual kind. He does, what he calls, spiritual pushups. “I’ll write down ten things I feel grateful for. And that starts to give me a little sip from the cup of great fullness. And then, when I’m giving to people, it’s from the overflow of that cup; it’s not from trying to get something or I’m not running on empty and trying to get something back.”
If we’re giving for approval or obligation, we’re attached to the result. We want the approval; we want the recognition; we want someone to tell us we’re okay or worthwhile. But, if we’re doing it for self-expression, from our need to express this love, then we need to give this creativity. If we’re able to make this become our need, then we’ve already gotten the reward.
So, you see, through the right kind of “selfishness” – the kind in which we’re giving from a source that’s overflowing, we’re truly giving for the joy of giving.
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: choice, expectations, gratitude, intentions, new perspective
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November 23rd, 2011
Thank you to those of you who have stepped into the fray, surged forward through uncertainty, and confidently made change happen – for yourself and for others.
Thank you to those of you who, despite life knocking you down, have gotten back up and shown others how to do the same.
Thank you to those of you who, while at the top of your game, have stopped to extend your hand to those who needed it.
Thank you to those of you who thank and praise others who have helped make your good fortune possible.
Thank you to those of you, students and graduates, who have shared these stories — and so many more — with us over the course of our past 12 years. We are here because of you, for you, and with you.
Thank you for being an inspiration to us and to all those you serve.
A heartfelt thank you from the entire iPEC team.
Live on Fire … with Gratitude,
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: gratitude, iPEC Coaching, thanksgiving
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October 31st, 2011
We’ve all been trained that success needs to be earned. Too often, we delay true happiness, as if that has to be earned as well. And we mostly worry about the future, or regret the past, and so we’re everywhere but here and now. Success and happiness are subjective and occur whenever we choose to see things that way.
This week, develop a trigger, such as wearing a watch on your other hand, and whenever you see it, stop whatever you’re doing, take a deep breath, look around and appreciate the moment, and realize the valuable gift of life offered to you in that instant.
And remember, there’s no better time to appreciate the present than now.
—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD
Founder, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: choice, gratitude, intentions, new perspective, opportunity, possibilities
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August 29th, 2011
Refresh and Reconnect
Should old acquaintances be forgotten?
Each person in our lives leaves an energetic imprint on us. By reconnecting with someone special from our past, we ignite that imprint. It reminds us of our journey to now and allows us to be uplifted by positive energy.
This week, think about someone you miss and reconnect with that person. You deserve the refresher.
—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, Founder
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: expectations, gratitude, intentions, opportunity
Posted in Bruce D Schneider - iPEC Founder, Monday Morning Motivation, Networking
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June 16th, 2010
I have been a coach since 1987 when I started my West Orange, NJ home-based business, Human Resources Unlimited. My expertise is in goal achievement, time management process, and selling skills. I also teach meditation and relaxation techniques. I have been practicing meditation regularly—twice a day—for about 40 years, so obviously it is a passion of mine and one that I really enjoy sharing.
The practice of meditation can have positive implications for your effectiveness and success as a coach. It will profoundly develop your body, mind, and emotions. As a coach this will definitely help you throughout the day to be more alive, awake, and alert.
The two greatest pieces of wisdom that I learned from the Transcendental Meditation (TM) movement were:
* Knowledge is Structured in Consciousness
* Established in Being Perform Action
Since December 12, 1970, I have been regularly meditating twice a day. Through meditation, I experience more of my pure self, more of my consciousness, more of my unlimited, unbounded pure field of possibilities. This field of all possibilities is who we are at our core, that which we truly are when we strip away all of the veils and illusions.
On March 8, 2008, I discovered a powerful personal development technique and program called WingMakers (www.wingmakers.com), which has allowed me to continue having a direct experience of contact with our Source. With the addition of the WingMakers materials (the art, music, poetry, novel, philosophy, and cosmology), and their personal development techniques I have experienced:
* Even more energy, and more consistently throughout the day
* A more powerful mind and greater focus
* Profound insights into who we are, why we are here, and awareness of our transition into becoming a more heart-centered species
Here are some links from WingMakers, which I think you will enjoy. The purpose of these two tools is to expand and accelerate your consciousness. I believe that by simply practicing these two techniques you are doing more for yourself and our planet than the greatest of masters.
* The Quantum Pause breathing technique is described on pages 27-29 in this article: http://eventtemples.com/sessions/evt3/downloads/Spiritual%20Activism%20EVT3.pdf
* Here is a link to my free eBook, My Spiritual Adventure. Note: Pages 18-24 are your introduction to WingMakers: http://www.toprovideguidancetomankind.com/book1/Book1-My-Spiritual-Adventure.pdf
* And a preview from To Provide Guidance to Mankind: http://www.toprovideguidancetomankind.com/book2/Book2-To-Provide-Guidance-to-Mankind-Preview.pdf
Thank you for this opportunity to share my passion with you.
Mark Riesenberg
Business Coach and Founder
Human Resources Unlimited
Tags: business coach, coaching skills, gratitude, intentions
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