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November 28th, 2011
Are you normal?
Ironically, when we are children, everyone wants us to be “normal.” And when we are adults, the last thing we want is to be like everyone else.
It is impossible for anyone to be like another, as we are so uniquely divine and perfect within ourselves. Abnormalities exist only within judgment. When we see all things as perfect, just the way they are, we realize that we are all different, and yet, that is perfectly normal.
This week, remember to relax — you’re already perfect!
—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD
Founder, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: expectations, intentions, judging others, new perspective
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November 14th, 2011
Life offers us millions of opportunities to judge. Every time we judge, we lower ourselves to the vibration of conflict. This is very unhealthy and will keep you unhappy.
You can be unreasonably happy by allowing yourself, when faced with an opportunity to judge, to simply let go of that urge and accept whatever is before you…as it is.
Why not try being unreasonably happy this week?
—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD
Founder, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: attitude, change, choice, intentions, judging others, new perspective, power of choice
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September 21st, 2011
The norm, for the vast majority of us, has become defending and sticking to our views, as well as advocating and influencing others to see it our way (or, in the alternative, not speaking up and remaining entrenched in our own view, unwilling to truly look at other possible perspectives). I’m sure you’re familiar with this approach.
So, let’s look instead at the role of the coach (and, in doing so, insert the word leader, teacher, or facilitator into this statement) in expanding your view. It’s to ask, for a period of time, what if the sky wasn’t blue? Or the grass wasn’t green? Or the water wasn’t wet?
Taking an opposing view, or even one that’s not directly contrary, but just from a unique perspective, can be invaluable in opening up new possibilities and creativity. After all, isn’t this when our passion truly comes alive?
We don’t want to be stifled, so why would we stifle the opinions of others? If you want to be able to fully express your ideas, how are you allowing others to fully express and explore theirs?
Why wait to be pronounced the coach, the leader, the teacher, or the facilitator? Why not step up as an individual, exercise that response-ability, and take the lead?
What will you do the next time you’re in a situation that requires ideas, solutions, and creativity? What will you do to engage the entire group of minds involved?
Make your goal be to arrive at the best possible solution or idea, and not simply to be the one with the “winning” idea.
Have confidence in the group around you, contribute your ideas, and help others contribute theirs as well. Let the ideas percolate, marinate, and grow. And see how far you can lead the group. In fact, you may just find this experience significantly more rewarding than simply being the one who’s idea was chosen.
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: change, choice, expectations, judging others, leadership, new perspective
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August 22nd, 2011
When you judge others, you judge yourself.
The next time you find yourself upset with another person’s actions, try to see yourself in that person and that person’s actions. If you are open to the possibility, you may actually find out that, in many cases, it is yourself that you see within that other person – a part of yourself you do not like – and it is you that you are upset with. The other person is only a mirror for your self-learning.
Once you are able to look within, and not project your anger onto another, you can take responsibility for your feelings and choose to let go of your anger.
—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, Founder
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: attitude, change, judging others, new perspective
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August 10th, 2011
I’ve read a lot about generational differences recently – within families, communities, the workplace, etc.
The Baby Boomers, Gen X-ers, and Gen Y-ers are all of different ages, growing-up under vastly different circumstances, so they quite naturally have their own unique perspectives, values, experiences, and goals. Using available information to learn about these generations can be quite helpful; however, that’s just a starting point.
Too often, we gather initial information about something and use that information to group or categorize our knowledge into buckets – meaning, we generalize the pieces of information and assume they help us understand the whole. This is actually part of how the brain functions. The more that it can compartmentalize information, the quicker it can operate and keep its attention on what’s next.
However, this is also the basis of forming assumptions and can prevent us from looking deeper at the uniqueness of any given situation or person — which is my point.
While there are differences among generations (as well as cultures, races, and genders), doesn’t every single one of us have our own values, experiences, perspectives, and goals?
Any initial information that you have is just the beginning (in potentially making you more comfortable with what you know). When it comes to human beings, the exception is the rule. So look for the exceptions and relate to individuals based on those exceptions.
Take the time to understand people for who they uniquely are – which includes what makes them both different AND alike.
Avoid the labels, get real, get personal… and of course, have some fun!
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: choice, expectations, judging others, leadership, new perspective
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