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October 3rd, 2011
“You really don’t have to be concerned with choosing your reality. Your fears will choose it for you.”
People either make choices from fear or love. Those who make choices from fear are victims in life, waiting until things happen to them, and because they wait, they remain defensive to life. In many cases, victims also make choices out of avoidance, the lesser of two evils.
People who choose from love are those who are proactive, consciously making decisions based on what they want, not on what they want to avoid. They are the leaders of their world and, more importantly, of their lives.
This week, when faced with a choice, clear your mind, relax, and choose from love.
—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD
Founder, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: attitude, choice, intentions, leadership, new perspective, power of choice, self-improvement
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September 27th, 2011
“Fully engaged leaders bring out the greatness in themselves and those around them. They’re clear on who they are—their capacity. And they clearly choose how they want their capacity to be reflected in the way they lead and take action; their values, beliefs, vision, and purpose show up in how they communicate, make decisions, and interact with others. They bring out their greatness because they integrate all that they uniquely are into all that they do.”
The above excerpt comes from Engaging Greatness, an engaging article (pun intended) co-authored by iPEC’s President & CEO, D. Luke Iorio, and Managing Partner of Corporate Engagement Services, Zackarie Lemelle, which appears in the September 2011 issue of Leadership Excellence magazine.
Luke and Zack explore a unique view on the much-talked-about subject of engagement; specifically, how employees play a game of follow-the-leader when it comes to the level of engagement, or disengagement, demonstrated by their leader.
To read the complete article, and learn how you can boost your own leadership capacity and engagement, click here.
Engage Your Greatness!
The Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: leadership, new perspective, possibilities, success
Posted in D. Luke Iorio - iPEC CEO, Zack Lemelle - Corporate Engagement Services, leadership
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September 21st, 2011
The norm, for the vast majority of us, has become defending and sticking to our views, as well as advocating and influencing others to see it our way (or, in the alternative, not speaking up and remaining entrenched in our own view, unwilling to truly look at other possible perspectives). I’m sure you’re familiar with this approach.
So, let’s look instead at the role of the coach (and, in doing so, insert the word leader, teacher, or facilitator into this statement) in expanding your view. It’s to ask, for a period of time, what if the sky wasn’t blue? Or the grass wasn’t green? Or the water wasn’t wet?
Taking an opposing view, or even one that’s not directly contrary, but just from a unique perspective, can be invaluable in opening up new possibilities and creativity. After all, isn’t this when our passion truly comes alive?
We don’t want to be stifled, so why would we stifle the opinions of others? If you want to be able to fully express your ideas, how are you allowing others to fully express and explore theirs?
Why wait to be pronounced the coach, the leader, the teacher, or the facilitator? Why not step up as an individual, exercise that response-ability, and take the lead?
What will you do the next time you’re in a situation that requires ideas, solutions, and creativity? What will you do to engage the entire group of minds involved?
Make your goal be to arrive at the best possible solution or idea, and not simply to be the one with the “winning” idea.
Have confidence in the group around you, contribute your ideas, and help others contribute theirs as well. Let the ideas percolate, marinate, and grow. And see how far you can lead the group. In fact, you may just find this experience significantly more rewarding than simply being the one who’s idea was chosen.
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: change, choice, expectations, judging others, leadership, new perspective
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September 14th, 2011
I commented, briefly, on the debt-ceiling debate, and it stirred a recurring theme that I see unfold in corporations and schools alike: one-sided agendas.
Hey, we’re human. We can only see so much at one time. And, naturally, what we see, and the actions we take, are driven by our own agenda. The challenge, however, is that the rest of the world is not necessarily here to fulfill our agenda, but rather to fulfill their own.
Interestingly, it’s the individuals who find a way to accomplish their goals, while, at the same time, helping us accomplish ours (either separately or through aligning agendas), who seem to be successful time and time again.
These individuals express an incredible flexibility in their persistence to achieve their goals. They recognize that gaining buy-in from others is an important step in progressing towards their own goals. To gain buy-in from others means having them clearly understand “what’s in it for me.” When you can incorporate another person’s agenda (and their stated benefits or goals), they’ll engage with you even more.
If the conversation stays one-sided, it’s very difficult to gain buy-in from other people, and, unless they clearly hear what’s in it for them, they’ll assume they’re working towards your agenda.
You know your agenda; so, get to know the agendas of the other people who may play an important role in you achieving your goals and see how you can create paths that enable everyone to get what they want. And, if you can’t see the path, take a step back. You’re likely too close to the details.
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: coaching skills, intentions, leadership, new perspective, reframing, success
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September 7th, 2011
I’m not talking about Felix and Oscar – instead, life itself! Life is really good at presenting interesting dichotomies and odd couples. Here are a few unlikely combinations that I’ve found to be critical to success. Let me know what you think:
- Confidently Humble – Powerful individuals that others turn to because of their confidence and wisdom, and because they’re the last ones to tell you how great they are. They’re confident in what they know; they’re confident that they don’t know everything; and they’d rather assume others have something to teach them before they presume to have the answers.
- Invulnerable Vulnerability – Vulnerability is a frightening concept to some and, interestingly enough, those that demonstrate the most vulnerability are the ones that are least vulnerable. They don’t allow that which they’re worried about to eat away at them and stay hidden. Instead, they share their vulnerabilities, put them out on display and, in turn, sleep well knowing they have nothing to hide.
- Patiently Persistent – Be persistent, even unwavering, in the pursuit of your goals and what you want. And, similarly, remember that great success rarely happens overnight. Be patient as progress is achieved and steps are taken, but be persistent in following through, and you’ll find extraordinary feats can be accomplished.
- Carefully Decisive – Don’t rush in, but don’t put off the decision either. Look at the information you have; challenge it, carefully, from multiple perspectives to see if you can open up more angles. Use that information to make the best decision you can, within the timeframe that you have, and then move forward with confidence, knowing you’ve put your best foot forward.
- Flexibly Focused – Focus is a key attribute to success, but don’t allow yourself to get tunnel-vision. Know your goal and know that there are likely many paths to reaching your goal. When you’re focused on your goal, yet remain open minded and flexible, you’ll often be able to arrange seemingly divergent directions into a path that leads you right where you want to go.
What successful odd couples have you found that work for you?
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: leadership, perspective, possibilities
Posted in D. Luke Iorio - iPEC CEO, Training Programs, leadership
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