Coaching Excellence blog

Response-Ability: Time to Start Using It!

March 16th, 2011

“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.”

– Robert Frost

Responsibility is a word that can cause some people to get excited, while causing others to cringe.  In an age where it seems like we have no shortage of things for which we must be responsible, it’s very natural, and quite understandable, to desire a little less responsibility. Who wouldn’t like to have one less thing on their plate, or one less person or situation demanding their attention?  Life can quickly find us in overwhelm mode, and it’s time to say, ENOUGH ALREADY!

… But not necessarily in the way that you think.

What we’ve lost sight of, perhaps, or where our perspective may have become skewed, is that we always have a choice.  We’re only victims of our circumstances if we grant that power and authority to our circumstances.  Situations – i.e., LIFE – will always unfold in an unpredictable manner, and change will always be a constant.  So, why, exactly, are we so surprised by the unpredictability of life?  Couldn’t you have predicted that?

In the end, what life can never take from you is your response-abilityyour ability to respond.

Situations occur… So what?!

The boss calls and needs you to rearrange all of your priorities right now… So what?!

Your spouse calls and says, “Sorry, Hon… I can’t make it back in time to pick-up the kids. You’ll need to get them and drive them to the 34 different activities they’re involved in tonight.” So what?!

Your new girlfriend or boyfriend who just can’t do anything wrong finally does something wrong.  So what?!

I’d like to list more serious situations around illness, death, finances, suffering in some way, but I don’t want to make light of the gravity of any individual’s personal situation; however, everyone has experienced such difficult times.  Everyone has a burden they are shouldering (most likely unnecessarily), and everyone still has a choice to make!  Everyone can still choose to respond in a way that enables them to move forward, to move on, to regain their happiness, and to follow their bliss.

It’s not necessarily easy… but it sure is freeing!

Stay tuned for more response-ability in upcoming posts.  Until then, think about a typical situation that frustrates you or really upsets you.  How will you choose to exercise your response-ability - now that you know that you have a choice in how you respond - the next time such a situation comes up?

Until next time, Live on Fire!

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

Where Your Past Meets Your Future: Finding a Unique Niche within the Life Coaching Industry

August 11th, 2010

By Guest Blogger Ryan Stanley, CPC

When I first decided to become a Life Coach, a lot of people I knew expressed concern about how I would be able to relate to all of the challenges that may come from the diversity of working with different types of people.

“How are you going to be an expert in everything?”

“Why would someone who is 20 years older than you want to go to you for advice?”

Now, after going through iPEC’s coach training program, I’m aware that I don’t need to be an expert in anything except the coaching process (specifically the Core Energy Coaching™ process) itself. I also now know that I’m not really giving any advice at all, as much as I am reflecting the clients’ concerns and challenges in a positive, personal format which enables them to gain new perspectives on what some solutions to those concerns and challenges may be.

But of course, when people decide that they want to be a life coach, they don’t know any of that yet. What they do know is that they enjoy seeing others become happy, healthy, and successful. So naturally, some of those same questions that my friends were asking me in regards to the challenges of becoming a Life Coach begin to pop up and block some potentially amazing coaches from taking their first steps to be a life coach.

Ironically, once someone goes through the program to become a Certified Professional Coach, a very common conversation that they end up having with clients is all about the client deciding what they really want out of life. What types of people do they want to surround themselves with? What kind of conversations do they want to be having at their work place on a daily basis?

It’s these type of questions which also often helps coaches begin to identify a niche or specific type of clientele. For whatever reason, it’s our nature as humans to think that any obvious answer is ‘too easy’ and it’s ‘got to be harder than that.’ The truth is, there are no rules about how to choose your clientele. You already have a wealth of personal experiences. And you know the type of people who you enjoy interacting with.

Consider: What do you love to talk about on a regular basis?

If it’s one thing that the development of internet and social networks has taught me, it’s that no matter what your hobby or personal interest may be, there are thousands, if not millions of people out there in the world with an equally focused interest in that exact subject. And if it’s one thing that becoming a life coach has taught me, it’s that every one of those people can benefit from having a life coach.

And when you’re working with a client, and you’re able to combine your common passion for that specific something with the coaching process, you end up having deep, engaged conversations about something that you both love.  And guess what? “Coincidentally” these conversations often end up having the client finding themselves on a clearer path to a happy, healthy and successful life.

Believe it or not, choosing a niche can be that easy. Your product is joy. Your target clients are people that you would love to talk to about a subject that is closely aligned with who you both are.

Oh, and by the way. Just because you choose a niche doesn’t mean that you can’t coach anyone else. If you’re good at what you do, chances are you’ll attract clients from all walks of life. It also doesn’t mean that you can’t change your niche. Be a coach. Enjoy the ride. You and your clients deserve it.

RMS

PS. Outside of my passion here at iPEC (which essentially is building successful relationships), I also coach within the music industry.  I had the pleasure of recently being interviewed for Play It Loud Music.  You can check out the interview here, Play It Loud Music’s Blog Thanks again!

Ryan is the Director of Strategic Alliances here at iPEC. He is also a band manager, screenwriter and Professional Life Coach. To find out more about Ryan’s journey to becoming a coach and his niche of choice, check out the blog/interview series above that he was recently asked to be a part of.  You can also find him on FaceBook at www.facebook.com/RMS.Life.Coach or check out his website at www.ryanstanley.com.

NASW Approves iPEC’s Life Potentials Training for 27 CEUs

July 29th, 2008

Many mental health professionals view coaching as a skill set that can either supplement their existing practice, or as an entirely separate income stream. As Social Work Today stated “…social workers are naturals to take proactive clients to ‘most valuable player’ status.”

iPEC Coaching is pleased to announce that the National Association of Social Workers (NASW) has just approved our Life Potentials Training program for 27 continuing education units (CEUs). Life Potentials Training is the perfect starting point for social workers considering a move into professional coaching, as it provides new skills to coach others toward improving any and every facet of their lives and work.

During this one weekend session, individuals discover how to put the best of who they are into all that they do.  It empowers them to feel invigorated with each day and each experience.  It helps them to become their authentic selves – confidently sharing their gifts with those around them.

What makes Life Potentials Training extremely unique is that each participant is coached on personal and leadership development and, at the same time, trains to use these same skills and processes with other people. This inside-out method for intensive professional development, called the Core Energy Coaching™ process, enables participants to become even more effective as social workers, leaders, consultants, teachers, and parents in that they get to personally experience all that they will ultimately to do with others in just 3 days.

Finally, but most importantly, students understand the key, underlying blocks that most typically prevent people from taking action and achieving sought-after goals, and they learn the approaches to permanently removing those blocks.  The skills, philosophies, tools, and overall experience have a profound impact on all aspects of attendees’ lives – such as improving personal relationships, stress levels, overall fulfillment, and much more.

iPEC not only offers the Life Potentials Training, but also our complete coach certification training program, of which Life Potentials is the just the first segment.