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January 9th, 2013
 Sometimes, when trying to manifest something, things don’t turn out the way you desire. In other words, you don’t get what you THINK you want. This may be because:
1. You are not clear on what it is that you really want. (Remember words alone can’t work; your very core, including the beliefs you have, must be focused and clear.)
2. You are asking for something that is in direct misalignment with what someone else wants. What if two people believe they will get the same job and both deserve it?
3. What if it’s not the best thing for you? Because you aren’t 100% connected to your potential, and in true alignment with what might be best for you, the answers you are looking for may not be noticeable or tangible. Have faith. There’s a big difference between what you think is true for you, and what is the Truth. If you work at it – understanding what you truly want- you will get there. And, you will most likely learn something about yourself in the process.
So, look at your goal and question its true purpose and value in your life, as well as in the lives of those around you. How can you get clear on what you truly WANT in order to move toward a desired result?
—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD
Founder, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
(Today’s blog is excerpted from iPEC’s self-mastery personal development program, The Law of Being.)
Tags: attitude, expectations, new perspective, opportunity
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December 26th, 2012
 I hope 2012 has been a great year for you.
In all transparency, I had a lot of mixed emotions when reflecting back on this year to write this post. On the one hand, I saw accomplishments; personally, I ran my first half marathon (after not being able to run even 3 miles six months earlier). And, I saw iPEC continue to grow in new directions – and graduates who continue to amaze and inspire me.
And yet, the end of this year has been a particularly difficult one – a devastating hurricane on the East Coast, and an unthinkable tragedy at Sandy Hook Elementary School.
As this year draws to a close, I know I’ll be thinking about that which is most important to me – my family – especially my children. I’ll be thinking about the world that I hope they’ll come to know as they grow up. And I’ll be thinking about my role, iPEC’s role, and our role – as a conscious community – in creating that world.
Creating that world cannot start in the future – it needs to start NOW. It doesn’t need to be global in nature; it just needs to start with “your world,” the one around you that you see and touch every day – and then expand from there, one step at a time.
As we step into the year ahead, I’ll be thinking of how I can impact those around me, each and every day, and propel them forward. And, I’ll also be considering ways in which to get involved in the larger community, to be a part of movements and causes – and not just be a supporter, but a joiner.
As I look back at the words I wrote to begin this year, I see these lines staring at us all:
We – as a community, society, and a country – need you. It’s time to stop waiting, to come back out, to speak up, to get involved, to take action, to lead.
If you haven’t heard your own inner voice calling for greatness, then here it is. I’m calling out to you – loudly, directly, overtly, and passionately. Will you answer?
Funny how things come full circle, huh?
I wish you joy and happiness through the remainder of this holiday season and, in 2013, I hope you’ll join me in answering the call more loudly than ever. Let’s make the year ahead our BEST one yet!
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: attitude, calling, encouragement, new perspective, self-improvement
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December 6th, 2012
Leave it to me, the believer in karma and universal law, to begin Life & Leadership Potentials Training (LPT) with a pint-sized, Darwin-like chip on my shoulder. I knew I was embarking on an evolutionary journey, (the first 30 hours to be exact), yet I secretly mimicked a swinging pendulum spewing last minute “survival-of-the-fittest” hypotheses.
My mind cautioned:
“C’mon, you know you’re not going to be good enough!”
“Give me a break; you’re never going to trust a roomful of strangers, so just stay detached!”
“You can’t coach someone else because you can barely face your own fears!”
Ouch…does anyone have a band aid? This fight or flight reflex evaded my mind, sending out smoke signals and primitively misguided hieroglyphics. What’s this underlying “eat or be eaten” mentality? Is this how I want to “show up” in the world and tell my story? My self-professed mantra, “I know it, I believe it, I receive it” was being overrun by the proverbial food chain.
Then something strange happened.
On day one of training, almost organically, the pendulum ceased. It stood still, centered, and balanced. No harsh or sudden movement, just cosmically calm and resolute. There was no need for judgment, labeling, or archaic presumptions. Call it a revelation (or just superb guidance from trainers, Cheryl Wilson and Karen Sullivan), but I, like many people, have been living in a prehistoric time. And, the wayward predator behind my most unpleasant thoughts – THE INNER CRITIC.
We ALL have one.
It’s that colossal-sized voice pointing out every flaw, every mistake we make. What if there were no mistakes? What if there were only choices? What if nothing was set in stone and you could stop chiseling away at the rock? LPT was my modern-day hero; my inner critic was the kryptonite.
Do you know what it feels like to go from Caveman catastrophe to Superman status (or woman, in this case) in just one weekend?!
Coaching is a powerful tool and just might be the modern-day answer to human evolution. As a result of my training, I now find myself stepping out of the cave and into the world with more confidence. I have the capacity to spark a flame in someone’s subconscious, helping them view challenges as opportunities. On my continual path to becoming a Certified Professional Coach, I will turn that flame ablaze, aptly choosing to “live on fire” (thanks D. Luke Iorio!).
I’ve also traded in my survivalist theories for a more upbeat tune, courtesy of the talented Ms. Alicia Keys. Sorry Darwin, but Alicia may have just cracked the code.
This girl is on fire!
Christie Koenigsmark
Marketing Assistant
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching
This is the 2nd installment in a special blog series by Christie Koenigsmark, which chronicles her journey to becoming a Certified Professional Coach with iPEC.
Tags: become a coach, change, coaching skills, new perspective, power of choice
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November 29th, 2012
 After a few coaching sessions, I was recently reminded of a “redefinition” I’ve always enjoyed.
As my good friend (oh yeah, and business partner and Founder of iPEC — you know, that Bruce guy. No, no… Schneider, not Springsteen!), likes to say, “A perfectionist is someone who finds flaw with everything.”
The first time I used that one with a client, they said it was like getting hit between the eyes with a wrecking ball right before they laughed and acknowledged how unbelievably, and unfortunately, true it was for them.
Everyone, at some point, has had that one project or task (or many tasks) that they just couldn’t let go of until they knew it was “flawless.” Listen, if you’re an engineer designing a bridge or a skyscraper, by all means, please don’t let it go until you’ve got it done perfectly! However, for the vast majority of us, and truly everyone in their lives, this idea of holding out for perfection is nonsensical.
We do great work and the first 95%, or even 98%, comes together and then we slave over the remaining few percentages — even though these percentages will not actually add any, or much, tangible value.
We write a blog post, then hem-and-haw about the last few words and edits.
We don’t “turn on the new website” because of some last minute copy changes.
We don’t print the new business cards because we aren’t sure if our tagline is just right.
We determine most of what we need to say for a tough conversation with an employee or boss, or even our spouses, and yet, we hold off, thinking we may just find some way to make it even better (or, more likely, get out of it!).
ENOUGH ALREADY!
You won’t have any readers if you don’t post the blog.
You won’t attract customers without the live website or without using a business card while networking (it’s just contact info – that’s it!).
And, you won’t make that challenging business or family situation better because you won’t have the tough conversation.
Listen… no seriously… listen to yourself! It’s time to trust yourself. It’s time to put yourself out there and trust that you will land on two feet. It’s time to trust that what you’ve come up with so far is more than enough to set you in motion and set you up for success.
Even if you spent all the time in the world coming up with the last few percentages either:
(A) It won’t make enough of a difference to have waited for it…
OR
(B) despite all the thinking in the world, you can’t prepare for all the different directions any one moment, conversation, or relationship can and will take — so you’re better off prepping what you can and then diving in.
What final 2% have you been chasing? How could you benefit from letting go of the final 2% of prep and just jumping in? What difference might this make, especially on those projects where you feel stuck, trying to get it just right?
There’s no time like now. Let it roll!
Live on Fire!
Luke
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: attitude, coaching, expectations, new perspective, perfectionism
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October 26th, 2012
We have more to do with less.
It’s a sentiment I’ve heard from education leaders across the country. With the decreases in education funding, tough decisions and cuts have had to be made. When so many schools were already struggling to reach their student achievement goals, it’s no wonder that, for some, it can now seem like an almost impossible task.
Any yet, there are those schools that excel in spite of the economic challenges and other issues. How- we ask ourselves? What do those school leaders know that we don’t?
People First Cultures
Numerous studies have found that the most effective school leaders believe that people are the key to performance. It makes a lot of sense, especially when you consider that the one constant in schools is the people. It is truly one of the things that you can most rely on- the students will come and the teachers will teach.
But there must be more to it than just that. When I asked a highly regarded, veteran superintendent what her number one challenge was this year, she shared that keeping her staff engaged and motivated was her top priority. She was very aware that the culture of her district depended on the level of engagement of all its members and that this culture greatly impacted the level of student success that they achieved.
Of course. And this correlates to what the research indicates.
Outstanding leaders understand that developing and stretching people to achieve beyond what they thought possible unleashes energy, that empowering people frees them to make a difference, and that this drives engagement.
If educators believe that the causes of student learning lie outside their influence or control, school improvement efforts can be viewed as futile. But when educators recognize and believe in their individual and collective capacity to positively impact student achievement, results follow.
How do you purposefully empower, engage, and inspire the people in your schools?
Susan Gonzales, MA.Ed, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
Vice President, Coach Training Programs
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
This is the first in a series of blogs addressing topics for today’s educational leaders. Check back for more postings.
Tags: change, education, new perspective, school leaders, success
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