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February 1st, 2012
Whether we realize it or not, we all influence people all day long. When we interact with one person, that interaction not only affects that person, but everybody around that person. We have a powerful level of impact that we may not even recognize. It creates this incredible ripple effect on every single person we touch in our lives – people that we may not know well or at all.
The question is then, is it a positive influence? When we are conscious of who we are and what we do, and how much influence we have, then we’re really able to affect people in a positive way – as opposed to affecting them in a negative way. The funny thing is, when we do affect them in a negative way, we don’t control the situation. We feel out of control, ourselves. That’s the repercussion of the negative effect. It comes back and then detrimentally has an impact on our lives too.
When we start to say, “What works well that can I do more of, and what am I missing that I know I can better do?” then we start to think about what our potential really is. Nobody reaches their potential – nobody – but, we can begin to tap into and start to live to our potential. Those are the people who will be the most successful and the most fulfilled in all aspects of their lives.
People are looking for more… more out of the products and services they buy, more out of the people they associate with, and, certainly, more out of life, in general. It used to be that it was all about finding the right job, staying there for 35 years, being content with what the company and your life gave you, and kind of making the best of things. Now it’s, “How can I create the best of things?” They want the right job. They want the right lifestyle. They want absolutely everything, and they’re beginning to recognize that they’re actually at the center of it all. They’re the common denominator in terms of creating everything that they want in their lives and work. It’s a fantastic movement to see and watch.
The irony is that we achieve control when we stop trying to control things – when we start to understand that our lives are a creation, on which we have a direct impact and that includes what we do and with whom we do it. And, when we feel like we are at the center, that means we create what happens in our lives and no longer live at the effect of life.
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: choice, expectations, intentions, leadership, new perspective, success
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January 25th, 2012
Every moment asks you to show up in some way. Consider, right now, who are you being? How are you showing up?
In coaching sessions, I regularly hear from clients and students about situations that have them stressed and frustrated. These situations are holding them back, getting in their way, blocking their options, or just not listening to what they want. At the moments when you’re really pushing and trying to get ahead and getting the results you’re seeking, who are you being?
Unfortunately, these people and situations, which are “in the way,” didn’t get the memo about getting out of your way and changing to be how you want them to be. As my very wise, very short, very Italian uncle used to so eloquently say, “Fuggedaboudit!” In fact, in these moments with your clients, the classic, quintessential break-up line is actually true: It’s not them; it’s you!
So I repeat, every moment asks you to show up in some way. You are energized, engaged, and hopefully resolved to make a big impact this year. And so are others! They want to achieve just like you do. What they want, how they want to show up, and how they want to get things done is up to them. You can’t change them. You can change you and what you want, how you show up, how you get things done, and who you want to be, as you’re doing it all is entirely within your control.
Be proactive. Be intentional. Think about how you want to show up – when things are rolling, when things get bumpy, when things get confusing, and when things get exciting!
And then support yourself with reminders. I have a client, right now, who set up his smart phone calendar to ask, “Who are being, right now?” at 4 pm, every day. What routines are you establishing to help you follow through and reinforce how you’ve decided to show up?
Live on Fire! {… and set a few reminders to keep you on track too!}
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: attitude, choice, expectations, intentions, new perspective, opportunity, self-improvement, success
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January 16th, 2012
Look at life as a puzzle. The pieces of the puzzle are the things you do and have done, as well as the experiences that helped define your belief system. Every piece you find offers you the choice to decide whether or not it fits into your puzzle. Instead of trying to make each piece fit, or beating yourself up over those pieces that don’t fit, realize that life is a journey of discovery, and if you find a piece that doesn’t belong to you, you can choose to let it go.
—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD
Founder, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: new perspective, possibilities
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December 26th, 2011
Life is an endless series of events and opportunities that help you experience, learn and grow. All of the events of our life help shape who we are, and all have a purpose.
Think about a time in your life when you experienced emotional pain. What did you learn from that experience, and how did it help you grow?
—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD
Founder, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: finding purpose, new perspective, possibilities
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December 21st, 2011
Yes, YOU.
You who’s been putting off that big decision (you know the big one that requires change and transition) or that difficult conversation because you don’t want to upset the other person or don’t know how to have the conversation without it getting heated or causing an argument.
But wait, there’s you, too. Yes, YOU.
You who’s been thinking about undertaking that new project that’ll get you ahead, which you’re excited about, but you know a lot of people will be watching to see how you do and what makes you sweat.
It doesn’t matter how big or how small, there’s likely something that’s important to you right now, in some way, which you’re avoiding or putting off. You may not be clear on what to do; you may be worried about some of the potential consequences (you know, the vivid and wonderfully creative stories of worst case scenarios that you’ve had running in the back of your mind). You may simply be afraid that it won’t work out as expected, even though you really, really want it to.
That’s life. It wants to be lived. It wants you to step into the moment and actually be there; be there in the moment — present, fully engaged, playing full out! Life doesn’t have regrets, but you may if you don’t take action – if you don’t jump in and play.
Life won’t always (or even most of the time) go as expected. Big surprise. Get back up and put your confidence in the way you want to live your life, instead of life needing to be a certain way in order for you to enjoy it. The joy is in the living; it’s in the process.
Whatever part of life is waiting for you, consider what small step you could take to get it moving again. What’s one giant leap you could take? What’s something in the middle that feels right – in terms of action, progress, and process?
Stop waiting; Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: achievement, choice, creativity, intentions, motivation, new perspective, opportunity, power of choice
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