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Resolved – Remember Me?

February 29th, 2012

We’re coming up on the end of February. Remember what you were resolved to do this year?  C’mon, it was only 2 months ago that you had all that energy, enthusiasm, and excitement to charge into the new year and conquer that list of goals! Where are you now?

If you’re still surging, it likely means that your goals are truly connected to a greater sense of purpose or vision that you have for yourself.

Now’s the time to do a check-in to see if your energy is even stronger than it was when you made the resolution. If it is, that’s a great sign.  If it isn’t quite where you want it to be, then consider what needs adjustment:

-    With the progress you’ve made, which of your values are you using most?  What values are under-represented?
-    With your current level of enthusiasm, what are you still passionate about?  Where has the passion waned?
-    In terms of progress, what parts of your plan have been smoothest? What clarity or focus do you need for the next stage?

If you’re not surging, chances are that one of these two things are going on:

1) Your goals were mostly external, meaning that they weren’t well connected to who you really are and why you’re going after those goals in the first place.  They weren’t tied to a bigger purpose, or to your values, strengths, motivators, or true drivers.  Consider what you’re really after in choosing your goals, and how the goals you’re choosing could potentially be the wrong ones.

2) You’ve hit the wall; that’s right, we all have a certain amount of stamina and resiliency that we’ve built up.  In some areas, we have tremendous stamina, while in other areas (usually those outside our comfort zone or that require some significant change), it can be quite limited.  Consider: with what system of support and reinforcement have you surrounded yourself in order to follow through and stick to it during these incredibly challenging times?  Whether it’s reminders, routines, a coach, a group looking to accomplish similar goals, or the like, surround yourself with those people and habits that help keep you on track and are there for you when the wall approaches!

The key is simply this: how are you examining, adjusting, re-evaluating, learning, growing, re-engaging, and building yourself, at this point in the year?  Being resolved is not a one-shot deal; it’s a process.  Set-up the process, set up the check-ins, and you’ll be setting yourself up for massive results — and be sure to give yourself a little time to go out and see those results!

Live on Fire!

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

What’s YOUR Vision?

February 20th, 2012

My vision of the future is one where people know how to live, love and enjoy their journeys, as they occur. In this vision, people are conscious and see all experiences as part of the journey. They don’t judge experiences as good or bad, they experience them, in control, instead of having the experiences control them. I envision a more conscious world, filled with power instead of fear, in which people harness the energy that is in and around them to manifest miracles, daily. I see a world where people live each moment to the fullest, and do not wait for something to occur in order to allow themselves joy.

What’s YOUR vision?

—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD
Founder,
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

**Today’s blog is an excerpt from iPEC Coaching’s self-mastery personal development program, The Law of Being

A Coaching Moment: Who Are You Being, Right Now?

January 25th, 2012

Every moment asks you to show up in some way.  Consider, right now, who are you being?  How are you showing up?

In coaching sessions, I regularly hear from clients and students about situations that have them stressed and frustrated.  These situations are holding them back, getting in their way, blocking their options, or just not listening to what they want.  At the moments when you’re really pushing and trying to get ahead and getting the results you’re seeking, who are you being?

Unfortunately, these people and situations, which are “in the way,” didn’t get the memo about getting out of your way and changing to be how you want them to be.  As my very wise, very short, very Italian uncle used to so eloquently say, “Fuggedaboudit!” In fact, in these moments with your clients, the classic, quintessential break-up line is actually true: It’s not them; it’s you!

So I repeat, every moment asks you to show up in some way.  You are energized, engaged, and hopefully resolved to make a big impact this year.  And so are others!  They want to achieve just like you do.  What they want, how they want to show up, and how they want to get things done is up to them.  You can’t change them.  You can change you and what you want, how you show up, how you get things done, and who you want to be, as you’re doing it all is entirely within your control.

Be proactive.  Be intentional. Think about how you want to show up – when things are rolling, when things get bumpy, when things get confusing, and when things get exciting!

And then support yourself with reminders.  I have a client, right now, who set up his smart phone calendar to ask, “Who are being, right now?” at 4 pm, every day.  What routines are you establishing to help you follow through and reinforce how you’ve decided to show up?

Live on Fire!  {… and set a few reminders to keep you on track too!}

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

A Call for Resolve, Not Resolutions

January 4th, 2012

Forgive me, as this post will be a bit longer than usual, but I needed to get some things out.
There’s a character in Ayn Rand’s reputed and much discussed work, Atlas Shrugged, named John Galt.  In the first half of the book, characters, out of despair, use John Galt’s name as a reason to give up (meaning only a mythological, made up person like Galt could answer, solve, or fix this situation).  The story reveals that Galt is a real person (“character”) and, ultimately, comes to symbolize the power and potential of the human mind.

Why am I telling you this?  To be honest, I hear a lot of despair and resignation in conversations today.  Whether it’s in the corporate, education, non-profit, health care, or law enforcement communities (or, frankly, in the general life arena too), I often hear people talk about what can’t be changed, what can’t be solved, and how little power they have to change things.

We see a gridlocked political system, a struggling and complex economy, a discouraged and disengaged workforce, and we begin to question what’s possible. These are situations that have been in the making for quite some time. Despite how hard these past few years have been on a great many people, it may prove that this period in time was very much needed.

We needed to question ourselves — and the process is still going on — which is why I’m writing this now.  The process is at a critical time.  We are at a time of great choice.  We can continue to despair.  We can be apathetic.  We can even get angry and frustrated, and yell about what “they” have done to this country and the world (whoever “they” is).  We can continue to howl at the moon – but other than possibly providing a much-needed stress release, where’s the howling getting you? Us?

So here we are, another New Year has arrived, and with it, possibly, a list of resolutions ready to go.  How many of those resolutions have you seen on your list before (…perhaps even year after year)?

What’s the real purpose behind the resolutions that you’ve made?

For those past resolutions that you may have checked off and accomplished, it was for this reason (and the same reason why the others may still be on your list): you were RESOLUTE.  Let Congress pass resolutions (assuming Congress actually passes anything these days); instead, we need to be resolved.

Resolute (as defined by Webster)
(1)    marked by firm determination
(2)    bold, steady

If you’re going to be marked by firm determination, if you’re going to be bold, then you’re likely driven by a great sense of purpose – a purpose that’s aligned with your values, your vision, and a far-reaching, inspiring goal.

When setting your sights this year, consider:

-    What impact do you want to have on your life, career, or business?
-    What impact might you want to have on the lives, careers, or businesses of others?
-    Who do you want to be as you make these impacts?
-    How do you want to infuse what you do with your values and strengths?
-    How do you want to unleash the power and potential of your true capacity?
-    What does this suggest for a big, inspiring, perhaps extraordinarily audacious goal?

And last, consider why this big goal or vision is extremely important to you. What does it say about you and the mark you want to make on your life or in the world?

Don’t just make a resolution; be resolute.

Consider that this year, you’re the entrepreneur, musician, artist, creator, innovator, activator, initiator, finisher, leader, and lover.  A resolute fire burns inside us all. Will you let it fuel you to greatness…and beyond?  Or will you let it burn you up?

We – as a community, society, and a country – need you.  It’s time to stop waiting, to come back out, to speak up, to get involved, to take action, to lead.

If you haven’t heard your own inner voice calling for greatness, then here it is.  I’m calling you out – loudly, directly, overtly, and passionately. Will you answer?

Please share your insights and what you’re resolved to accomplish, and be, this year.

If this message speaks to you, and puts words to something you’ve felt but haven’t yet said, share it widely.  If nothing else, consider what this means to you and to your life, and how you’ll show up in it from this point forward.

Let’s roll.

Live on Fire!

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

Hey You…Life is Waiting!

December 21st, 2011

Yes, YOU.

You who’s been putting off that big decision (you know the big one that requires change and transition) or that difficult conversation because you don’t want to upset the other person or don’t know how to have the conversation without it getting heated or causing an argument.

But wait, there’s you, too. Yes, YOU.

You who’s been thinking about undertaking that new project that’ll get you ahead, which you’re excited about, but you know a lot of people will be watching to see how you do and what makes you sweat.

It doesn’t matter how big or how small, there’s likely something that’s important to you right now, in some way, which you’re avoiding or putting off.  You may not be clear on what to do; you may be worried about some of the potential consequences (you know, the vivid and wonderfully creative stories of worst case scenarios that you’ve had running in the back of your mind). You may simply be afraid that it won’t work out as expected, even though you really, really want it to.

That’s life.  It wants to be lived.  It wants you to step into the moment and actually be there; be there in the moment — present, fully engaged, playing full out!  Life doesn’t have regrets, but you may if you don’t take action – if you don’t jump in and play.

Life won’t always (or even most of the time) go as expected.  Big surprise.  Get back up and put your confidence in the way you want to live your life, instead of life needing to be a certain way in order for you to enjoy it.  The joy is in the living; it’s in the process.

Whatever part of life is waiting for you, consider what small step you could take to get it moving again.  What’s one giant leap you could take?  What’s something in the middle that feels right – in terms of action, progress, and process?

Stop waiting; Live on Fire!

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)