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This Coach Wants to Know: Still Resolved?

January 11th, 2012

It’s just one week later… how resolved are you on those 2012 goals?

Resolve burns deep.  Your resolve needs to be bigger than just a drive to accomplish.  That’s why I asked you about your purpose, your vision, and your passion.  I was reminded of this, just this week, as I was reading the book, That Used to Be Us, by Thomas Friedman and Michael Mandelbaum.  The book shares the following conversation with Diane Rosenberg, head of the Nueva School in Hillsborough, California (between San Francisco and Palo Alto).  Nueva is a school for gifted children, which has incredible resources and approaches that have earned it a well-deserved national reputation.

Rosenberg says that she and her colleagues approached the issue of how to nurture creativity by starting with a simple question: Who are the successful people in life?  “As we looked around,” she recalled, “the answer was that they were people who pursued their passion with a purpose. And they were all-in, in doing so.  They did it with their entire being, whatever it was.  They were pulled by something inside them, not driven.”

So I pose this to you: It’s not even two weeks into the New Year.  How’s your resolve?  High?  Higher?  Or dwindling?  Why?

If it’s high or higher, there’s a good chance you feel that pull.  You can’t help but surge forward.

If it’s dwindling or feeling like a lot of work, then you may not have connected your goals deeply enough.  You may have a whole other level that you can reach.

This is not to say that perseverance isn’t needed at times.  Believe me – it will be.  It’s not going to be purely smooth sailing, with a margarita in hand!

But, if your passion, purpose, vision, values, and mission are aligned with your goals, it’s amazing what comes your way, what opportunities reveal themselves to you, and how your future pulls you forward.

What are you going to do in order to feel and fuel that fire?

What are you going to do to build on the fire you feel burning inside?

It’s up to you.  You’ll get out whatever you put into this year (for better or worse)… in fact, you usually get a whole lot more.  It starts with you.

Live on Fire!

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

Your Mini Life Review

January 9th, 2012

“The end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time.” - T.S. Elliot

This week, in your journal, write a review of your life. The questions and topics below can be used to get you started:

Where were you born?

Where did you grow up?

How would you describe your family?

What was your childhood like?

Your teen years?

Young adult years?

How would you describe your life now?

What age stands out in your mind, and why?

Make a timeline of the important events in your life.

What was the happiest time in your life?

The unhappiest?

What is your greatest achievement so far?

What jobs have you had?

What did you like most/least about each job?

How do you feel about what you’re currently doing?

Who are the important people in your life now?

How is your list different today, from who you might have listed, say, 10 years ago?

What kind of “coincidences” have occurred in your life?

Use your imagination, be creative, and HAVE FUN while doing this exercise. Remember no one is grading or judging you on this. After you’re done, read over your review and pat yourself on the back for where you are and what you’ve accomplished in your life.

—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD
Founder,
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

A Call for Resolve, Not Resolutions

January 4th, 2012

Forgive me, as this post will be a bit longer than usual, but I needed to get some things out.
There’s a character in Ayn Rand’s reputed and much discussed work, Atlas Shrugged, named John Galt.  In the first half of the book, characters, out of despair, use John Galt’s name as a reason to give up (meaning only a mythological, made up person like Galt could answer, solve, or fix this situation).  The story reveals that Galt is a real person (“character”) and, ultimately, comes to symbolize the power and potential of the human mind.

Why am I telling you this?  To be honest, I hear a lot of despair and resignation in conversations today.  Whether it’s in the corporate, education, non-profit, health care, or law enforcement communities (or, frankly, in the general life arena too), I often hear people talk about what can’t be changed, what can’t be solved, and how little power they have to change things.

We see a gridlocked political system, a struggling and complex economy, a discouraged and disengaged workforce, and we begin to question what’s possible. These are situations that have been in the making for quite some time. Despite how hard these past few years have been on a great many people, it may prove that this period in time was very much needed.

We needed to question ourselves — and the process is still going on — which is why I’m writing this now.  The process is at a critical time.  We are at a time of great choice.  We can continue to despair.  We can be apathetic.  We can even get angry and frustrated, and yell about what “they” have done to this country and the world (whoever “they” is).  We can continue to howl at the moon – but other than possibly providing a much-needed stress release, where’s the howling getting you? Us?

So here we are, another New Year has arrived, and with it, possibly, a list of resolutions ready to go.  How many of those resolutions have you seen on your list before (…perhaps even year after year)?

What’s the real purpose behind the resolutions that you’ve made?

For those past resolutions that you may have checked off and accomplished, it was for this reason (and the same reason why the others may still be on your list): you were RESOLUTE.  Let Congress pass resolutions (assuming Congress actually passes anything these days); instead, we need to be resolved.

Resolute (as defined by Webster)
(1)    marked by firm determination
(2)    bold, steady

If you’re going to be marked by firm determination, if you’re going to be bold, then you’re likely driven by a great sense of purpose – a purpose that’s aligned with your values, your vision, and a far-reaching, inspiring goal.

When setting your sights this year, consider:

-    What impact do you want to have on your life, career, or business?
-    What impact might you want to have on the lives, careers, or businesses of others?
-    Who do you want to be as you make these impacts?
-    How do you want to infuse what you do with your values and strengths?
-    How do you want to unleash the power and potential of your true capacity?
-    What does this suggest for a big, inspiring, perhaps extraordinarily audacious goal?

And last, consider why this big goal or vision is extremely important to you. What does it say about you and the mark you want to make on your life or in the world?

Don’t just make a resolution; be resolute.

Consider that this year, you’re the entrepreneur, musician, artist, creator, innovator, activator, initiator, finisher, leader, and lover.  A resolute fire burns inside us all. Will you let it fuel you to greatness…and beyond?  Or will you let it burn you up?

We – as a community, society, and a country – need you.  It’s time to stop waiting, to come back out, to speak up, to get involved, to take action, to lead.

If you haven’t heard your own inner voice calling for greatness, then here it is.  I’m calling you out – loudly, directly, overtly, and passionately. Will you answer?

Please share your insights and what you’re resolved to accomplish, and be, this year.

If this message speaks to you, and puts words to something you’ve felt but haven’t yet said, share it widely.  If nothing else, consider what this means to you and to your life, and how you’ll show up in it from this point forward.

Let’s roll.

Live on Fire!

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

Up Until Now

September 28th, 2011

You don’t understand. No, really — these are the events that have kept me from starting my business.  I’m telling you, there’s no reason to step-up my career transition until the economy improves.  I’m serious — the company won’t be stable until this economy gets better. Blah, blah, blah…

The list of excuses and rationalizations that are built on yesterday’s memories is endless.  These excuses allow us to create such vivid, detailed, and well thought out stories that are sure to keep us standing still, to keep us in our place, to keep us playing small.

So, let’s wipe the slate clean.  Let’s remember that everything you’ve experienced is behind you; that those experiences have factored into wherever you presently are, but they are not a predictor of your future — that they mattered and held you back in some way UP UNTIL NOW.

That’s the amazing thing about time.  We can choose to change directions and create an incredible new future at any given moment.  We can leave the baggage, the stories, the excuses, and the rationalizations behind us.

As one of my clients remarked just yesterday, “I realized it was time to dis-empower the old beliefs and experiences and start empowering new ones that create the future I want.”

So, whatever story or circumstances have frustrated you, held you back, overwhelmed you, or have you feeling like less than you really are, take the next few days to say, “That was then — that was up until now!”

Decide what tomorrow will bring because of what you can, and will, create today.

Stop waiting. Live on Fire!

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

Engage at Your Core

June 29th, 2011

The Core Energy Coaching™ process takes everything that makes you who you are – your purpose, beliefs, values, strengths, etc. – and engages that capacity on the specific goal you want to achieve, the role at which you want to succeed, or the task you are undertaking.

This is Core Energy Coaching – the process by which you connect your inner purpose and passion (who you are) to your outer goals and strategies (what you do and how you do it).  This process means that you’re developing your own unique success formula – it helps you figure out how YOU do things.

Consider for yourself:
•    How do you want your values to show up in your role as a leader, educator, or parent?
•    How does your current job reflect the overall purpose you have in life?
•    Which of your strengths do you most enjoy using, and how are you currently using them to achieve your goals?

What do you believe you could accomplish if you were able to completely engage your full capacity, take action with courageous authenticity, and focus it all on what you want most?

Live on Fire!

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)