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May 9th, 2013
We’re happy to have Paul Garro, Executive Director of City Year San Antonio, as our guest blogger. A featured speaker for iPEC’s “Dialogue Among Thought Leaders” series, Paul has been successfully serving the educational community for 20+ years. In addition, he’s been a national consultant for “Teaching the Hard to Reach,” and has authored the first of a series of books entitled, “Classrooms of Inspiration.”
So, what builds trust?
For starters, a strong foundation for trust develops when you expose your limitations, own your actions, and admit that you can’t get everything done all by yourself. In fact, vulnerability and humility have the effect of gathering people together to shape meaning and motivate change.
Trust is also built by a demonstration of our values. When leaders stay true to their values, and their actions are aligned with what they say, confidence begins to build in the people they lead. In essence, these leaders develop powerful vulnerability, which translates into demonstrated integrity — one of the very cornerstones for building trust.
In the Corporation for National & Community Service’s study, “Volunteering and Civic Life in America,” participants from various cities across the country were asked to rate their level of trust in their neighborhoods, public schools, corporations, and the media. While neighborhoods and public schools had the highest levels of trust, corporations and the media were shown to have much lower levels, revealing the tremendous opportunity that exists to connect with our communities and become trusted partners.
How do we break down barriers and build bridges in order to capitalize on this opportunity and formulate trust? In other words, how do we creatively form relationships on our way to successfully building trusted community networks?
Being well-versed in your beliefs, and in your craft, allows you to embody your values and develop strategic relationships with the people and organizations within your communities. From these relationships, your academic organization can build a trusted portfolio of business and community network partners.
So, spend some time with a bit of self-reflection on these seemingly simple, yet powerful, questions:
- How well versed am I in who I am?
- How well versed am I in my craft?
To be sure, listening is also key, as is finding the commonality that exists between your organization and those within your community. Be bold and persistent in finding that commonality; it’s the fuel that will spark your ability to build networks of trust.
When you combine these elements together, you’ll also portray a sense of confidence – confidence in your yourself and in your mission. With trust and confidence, and community alignment, you’ll be amazed by what you’ll be able to accomplish together.
Again, powerful vulnerability, that sense that you don’t have all the answers, that you can’t go it alone, is what paves the way for building, and sustaining, these all-important networks of trust. While they help to provide us with the strategic levers necessary to catapult the trajectory of our organization to an entirely new level (e.g., increasing its capacity for change, propelling its growth), perhaps most important of all is our shared ability to deliver a positive social return to our communities.
What do you see as possible within your organization, and across your community, by tapping into your own powerful vulnerability? And, how can you be a disciple in building communities of trust?
Paul Garro
Executive Director
City Year San Antonio
*The image above is an actual painting by Paul Garro, which not only reflects his artistic talents and immense creativity; it’s also a very personal reflection of his heart-centered approach as a servant leader.
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May 8th, 2013
‘Why’ – one simple word that contains a powerful question within it.
There’s been a lot of focus on the power of “why,” in terms of understanding one’s motivation and what truly drives individuals to go after whatever it is they’re seeking.
I’d like to take a different look at ‘why’ in terms of understanding, well…anything! To do this, let’s be clear about what we want from ‘why.’ (Say that 10x fast!)
We don’t want to use ‘why’ to make people justify themselves. Someone shouldn’t be left thinking, “Why do I have to explain myself?” Instead, they should be thinking, “How can I explain myself?”
The first question represents someone in a defensive posture, while the second is about building understanding – and that’s what we want from ‘why.’
‘Why’ – when asked from a place of curiosity – can create great understanding and bridge immense gaps. A curious ‘why’ gets someone considering, “so what led me to think, feel, or do that?” “Hmmm…why did I approach it that way?”
Such curiosity can offer great self-awareness and insight.
And yet, all too often, we assume we know ‘why.’ We fill in the gaps of the story with our own version of ‘why,’ which, coincidentally, reinforces whatever view we already had. Funny how that works out!
So, next time you’re a little confounded by what’s going on, or when you feel yourself getting a little worked-up (at yourself or someone else), start asking yourself:
- Why do I think that’s the case?
- Why am I interpreting things this way?
- What’s leading me to draw that conclusion?
- What’s making me feel this way?
- Why does it have to be this way?
- Why couldn’t it be different?
But beware: you may just stumble onto a light bulb moment of deeper meaning and clearer understanding.
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
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April 5th, 2013
Although the ‘Ides of March’ have passed, it’s never too late to find meaning in it. For those who may need a refresher, March 15th is the Ides of March – the day Julius Caesar was warned about by a soothsayer. It would be the day he was killed.
I will freely admit that being forced to read Shakespeare in high school wasn’t exactly something I thoroughly relished, but I do recall that The Bard’s Julius Caesar was one that I didn’t mind. (Hey, I was a kid; my tastes are more refined, now!)
There’s a great line in the play. Act I, Scene 2 – Cassius is trying to convince Brutus that Caesar has to be stopped from becoming the ruler of Rome. Cassius expresses that he doesn’t want to serve under Caesar, but would rather Brutus join in the conspiracy to assassinate him.
“The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves, that we are underlings.”
That line was written over 400 years ago, yet it’s still powerful. You see, Cassius is saying that it’s man’s actions and decisions that dictate their situations - not fate.
Fortunately, assassination is much less acceptable today than in ancient Rome, but the message still holds true. We’re not victims of some unseen force (the stars). We’re the ones responsible for being the change we desire (ourselves).
We often hear how something was “just in the cards” or “meant to happen.” Sometimes it’s easier just to think the stars caused it. That’s tantamount to throwing up our hands and saying, “Oh, well.”
It’s not what happens that matters; it’s what we do about what happens that’s important. Unplanned situations and challenges are always going to arise. Heck, that’s the fun of living. It’d be a pretty boring world if we always knew what was going to transpire. The real satisfaction comes from boldly facing and overcoming the situations and obstacles we encounter. Having a plan, setting goals, and monitoring our progress is vital, and so is being able to adapt on the fly and not succumbing to the notion that things are out of our control.
As Cassius also said, “Men…are masters of their fates.”
How do you make a conscious choice, everyday, to be the change that you desire?
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
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February 7th, 2013
One of the greatest American poets, Robert Frost, wrote:
“Two roads diverged in a wood and I, I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference.”
I recall reading this classic poem, “The Road Not Taken,” in grammar school. Even so, an aspect of my mind that has long amazed me is the interesting assortment of things that I remember, as well as the many things (no doubt) of which I have absolutely no recollection.
What amazes me even more are the crystal clear reappearances of memories that seemed long forgotten – often as clear as if they happened only yesterday.
A book, a movie, or a song will light a candle of thought, which quickly becomes an inferno of details, that hadn’t stirred in my mind in ages.
Unwinding at the end of a day, recently, I came across the movie, “Dead Poets Society” on TV. If you’ve never seen it, I highly recommend watching it. In one scene, Robin Williams’ character was explaining to his class the importance of trusting in their beliefs and cherishing their individual uniqueness, even if the “herd” finds them odd or unpopular. He then proceeded to quote Frost’s celebrated poem.
I thought, “such inspiring wisdom to impart; such a wonderful seed to plant in young minds.”
Suddenly, as if a switch was flicked on, I was transported back to that rainy day as I sat at my desk (second row, third seat over) in Mrs. Connolly’s English class, reading that poem for the first time.
I realize now that the seeds it had sown had grown within me over the years. It’s amazing how an instance from childhood can quickly become so clear. Something that seemed so insignificant to twelve-year-old me played a significant role in who I’ve become.
I’ve learned that it’s often easier and safer to take the established route or the paved road. At times, it may be the more convenient and quicker avenue too, but it’s not as fun or challenging or exciting as forging your own path.
I don’t know if Frost could’ve foreseen the impact he’d have on a twelve-year-old boy, or if that was even his intent. I like to think he was just following his own “road not taken” and living truthfully, fulfilling what he knew was his purpose. Regardless, he planted a seed within me, one that firmly took root, and inspired me to forge a unique path to fulfilling my own purpose.
What path have you forged or are you now forging? What difference has that made in your life and in the lives of those around you?
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP President & CEO Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
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January 29th, 2013
Intuition is knowing without knowing how you know. It’s that flash of insight you get about something.
You’re an intuitive being, even though you might think you’re not.
Some people are more in touch with their intuitive self than others, but we all have similar innate abilities. The more you raise your consciousness and let go of ego, logic, and judgment, as well as catabolic emotions like fear, the more you’ll be able to tap into your intuition.
You can practice developing your intuitive qualities by taking time to clear your mind and by being still and just listening. Remember to trust yourself. You know more than you believe you do. So, when you have an intuitive hit (idea, sense, etc.), tune into the feeling of it. What does it feel like? (Don’t think about it; just focus on the feeling.)
If your intuition is about another person, after they give you permission, share that thought or idea (your intuitive hit). If your intuition is about you, just journal your ideas. In the case of the former, ask that person for feedback to see how accurate you are. If you were right on, catalog that experience and feeling by writing it down. The next time you get an intuitive hit, feel how close it is to the first feeling, and then test it again.
Keep cataloging your experiences and deciphering the differences. With enough practice, you’ll be able to decipher your intuition from other random thoughts and emotions.
—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD Founder, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
(Today’s blog is excerpted from iPEC’s self-mastery personal development program, The Law of Being.)
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