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How To Be Unreasonably HappyNovember 14th, 2011Life offers us millions of opportunities to judge. Every time we judge, we lower ourselves to the vibration of conflict. This is very unhealthy and will keep you unhappy. You can be unreasonably happy by allowing yourself, when faced with an opportunity to judge, to simply let go of that urge and accept whatever is before you…as it is. Why not try being unreasonably happy this week? —Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD Life Just IsOctober 24th, 2011Wouldn’t it be great if we could appreciate each experience we have without judgment? When things are painful, we label them as bad and want them to end. When things are enjoyable, we label them as good and are disappointed when they end. Life just is. There are no good or bad experiences; there are only experiences, and without judgment, all will offer you value. This week, instead of judging your life, try to be an observer instead of just the participant. —Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD Victim or Leader? You Choose!October 3rd, 2011“You really don’t have to be concerned with choosing your reality. Your fears will choose it for you.” People either make choices from fear or love. Those who make choices from fear are victims in life, waiting until things happen to them, and because they wait, they remain defensive to life. In many cases, victims also make choices out of avoidance, the lesser of two evils. People who choose from love are those who are proactive, consciously making decisions based on what they want, not on what they want to avoid. They are the leaders of their world and, more importantly, of their lives. This week, when faced with a choice, clear your mind, relax, and choose from love. —Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD You Are Not Your ThoughtsSeptember 26th, 2011“You have thoughts, feelings, and emotions, but you are not your thoughts, feelings or emotions.” - Frances Vaughn Life’s experiences often seem to cause us much anxiety, fear, and worry. That’s because we identify with the emotional experience that we are having at any given moment. We own the experience and allow it to become us, instead of simply observing the situation and the feelings that come. This week, instead of “owning” any emotional reaction, try instead to feel what you feel without identifying with the feeling, and simply be an observer of the experience. —Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD An Uncertain GiftAugust 24th, 2011I was just reading an article by Ben Johnson entitled, “Helping Students Deal with Uncertainty in the Classroom” and couldn’t help but think about how most adults handle uncertainty. My first thought is that uncertainty is one of those incredible aspects of life that helps us really understand ourselves. Consider: What’s the first thought that comes to mind when you hear the word “uncertainty”? Do you get excited about the possibility to create? Do you get worried about not knowing what’s about to happen? Do you get frustrated because it means you don’t know the answer? Do you enjoy the experience with curiosity and discovery, or do you want it to be done with as soon as possible? What do any of these reactions tell you about yourself? With this realization, now ask yourself, “Is my typical reaction to uncertainty helping me excel or holding me back, and how much is it doing so?” For some, the excitement of creation is exhilarating and liberating, but it may or may not result in taking concrete steps to move a situation forward. In that case, don’t stay in the uncertainty and creation; know when it’s time to act. For others, the frustration or worry of not knowing is almost paralyzing, or they miss the message or learning from the experience, in the hopes of just “moving past it.” Slow down; get curious about what’s going on; figure out your goal; and, then, start to arrange things back into some order that helps jump you forward. Uncertainty – like constant change – is a given in life. Rarely do life’s challenges and opportunities include solving 2 + 2. Know what your formula currently is and, then, if it’s not what you want, determine and define what you’d like it to be. Plan for uncertainty and then use it to thrive! And, like Johnson proposed in his article, let’s start using uncertainty in the classrooms and stop building so much concern about the unknown. Let’s get our children (and maybe even ourselves) comfortable with uncertainty. One thing I’m absolutely certain of is this: we already hold the answers we seek – we just have to ask the right questions to discover them! Live on Fire! D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP |
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