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October 5th, 2011
A quick recap and two take-away strategies that I sure hope you use.
I recently finished reading a great new book, The Progress Principle, by Theresa Amabile. Boiling down and oversimplifying the point of the book, it asserts — supported by tremendous research — that people are most satisfied and engaged (thus, in a better mood) when they’re making progress on meaningful work.
Progress needs to be measurable and specific, but doesn’t necessarily need to be momentous. Steady steps and small wins are just as important as big leaps forward.
As for meaningful work, well, that means the work has a purpose that aligns the individual’s sense of contribution and values with the goals and values of the organization and/or project.
There are many things that can both support progress (“catalysts,” as Amabile puts it), and take away from it (“setbacks”).
Which leads me to my two cents. The catalysts and setbacks described in the book are truly about the environment in which you’re situated and the way in which you react to your perceptions of how progress is being achieved.
Note the italicized text. Progress is truly perception of progress. Yes, there are environmental factors (meaning the culture of the organization, people you work with, etc.); however, it’s your perception that determines whether something is a catalyst or a setback.
When a project doesn’t go as planned, how disappointed do you get? And, how excited do you get? Consider what the disappointment is about and contrast that with this question: What about this so-called failure is absolutely perfect in order to slingshot me forward?
I’ll even re-use the old, worn-out Edison story here because it highlights the point. Upon failing to invent the light bulb for the gazillionth time, Edison’s assistant asks him how he can deal with the repeated failure. Edison mythically replies, “Son, I just discovered the gazillionth way to not invent the light bulb.” Ok, so maybe it wasn’t a gazillion – but that’s how often I’ve heard this story… and it’s still important.
The point is this: success is how you perceive progress! And it’s completely within your control. And, by the way, Edison used those so-called failures to launch a number of inventions that would never have been possible without “failing” so often.
Ok, so you can manage your perceptions, and I can promise you that managing them in the moment — at that very time when you realize your expectations won’t be met (and you get disappointed) — is the toughest time to do it.
Which leaves two options:
- If you’re already there, with unmet expectations and disappointment, be okay with it! It’s okay to be disappointed when you’ve invested a lot of yourself into something. And forgive yourself, and those around you, for it not working out as planned. Seriously, what ever actually goes exactly as planned? Even great successes? Next, start asking yourself questions about what aspects went right. What were the best practices you can take away from this experience? What learning can you apply to your next attempt? And so on…
- And here’s the preferable method: BE PRESUMPTIVE, which means setting your expectations — ahead of time — to consider that things may not go as planned. Focus on how you can evaluate what’s going on and use all the data and information that’s coming back to you to make progress. Pre-determine how setbacks are likely blessings in disguise. Set a purpose and intention for those setbacks before they even occur. This isn’t planning to fail; it’s planning to get back up even when you’ve been knocked down. It’s about being resolved to see it through. It’s about creating opportunity and possibility from what others may not see. It’s about leading — leading yourself and leading others — because in the face of a so-called setback, you’ll be the one who’s calm, collected…and even excited!
Progress is your perception. Your perception is your choice.
Sorry – I know it’s easier to let circumstances dictate your progress; it’s easier to let those other forces lead, but leaders lead. And they do so because they CHOOSE to lead.
Live (and Lead) on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
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September 26th, 2011
“You have thoughts, feelings, and emotions, but you are not your thoughts, feelings or emotions.” - Frances Vaughn
Life’s experiences often seem to cause us much anxiety, fear, and worry. That’s because we identify with the emotional experience that we are having at any given moment. We own the experience and allow it to become us, instead of simply observing the situation and the feelings that come.
This week, instead of “owning” any emotional reaction, try instead to feel what you feel without identifying with the feeling, and simply be an observer of the experience.
—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD
Founder, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
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September 19th, 2011
During a storm, the water under the surface is still calm. While the storms of our life create much turbulence and anxiety for us, remember that there is peace within.
Anxiety comes from our perception of how we perceive an outer event. If you were able to see things and situations for what they really are, just things and situations, and avoid judging those as bad, you would remain calm more often than not.
This week, when confronted by a stressful event, take a deep breath and remember the calm within.
—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, Founder
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
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September 14th, 2011
I commented, briefly, on the debt-ceiling debate, and it stirred a recurring theme that I see unfold in corporations and schools alike: one-sided agendas.
Hey, we’re human. We can only see so much at one time. And, naturally, what we see, and the actions we take, are driven by our own agenda. The challenge, however, is that the rest of the world is not necessarily here to fulfill our agenda, but rather to fulfill their own.
Interestingly, it’s the individuals who find a way to accomplish their goals, while, at the same time, helping us accomplish ours (either separately or through aligning agendas), who seem to be successful time and time again.
These individuals express an incredible flexibility in their persistence to achieve their goals. They recognize that gaining buy-in from others is an important step in progressing towards their own goals. To gain buy-in from others means having them clearly understand “what’s in it for me.” When you can incorporate another person’s agenda (and their stated benefits or goals), they’ll engage with you even more.
If the conversation stays one-sided, it’s very difficult to gain buy-in from other people, and, unless they clearly hear what’s in it for them, they’ll assume they’re working towards your agenda.
You know your agenda; so, get to know the agendas of the other people who may play an important role in you achieving your goals and see how you can create paths that enable everyone to get what they want. And, if you can’t see the path, take a step back. You’re likely too close to the details.
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
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June 15th, 2011
One rule of improvisational acting (especially in comedy) is to never respond to your co-actor by saying “no.” Using the word “no” is a quick way to halt momentum, stop the actors in their tracks, and break the energy of the act. In improv, it’s best to go with the flow, to maneuver through the energy, and re-direct it as you need.
Now, consider that in your conversations – at work or at home. Think about a conversation where requests are being made, or new directions or ideas are being considered. Think about the impact that a quick response of “no” has on the situation. How does someone respond when hearing a big “no?” How well understood do they feel? What impact do you think this will have on their receptiveness to your ideas?
This isn’t to say that “no” may not be the appropriate answer at some point, but how quickly do you jump to “no?” Which of the following sounds more like your default? “No, that’s not going to work.” “No, we can’t do that right now.” Or, “Let’s explore this and see what the possibilities are.”
It’s those that look, by default, to understand the perspectives and ideas of others… those that truly listen for what’s most important to the other person… those that look for the value in what’s being presented or requested who have the ability to better meet other people where they are. They can demonstrate that they’ve heard what the other person is saying as they acknowledge the key points, and then they ask questions to appropriately clarify or challenge what’s being said. More often than not, this type of conversation will lead to new alternatives being created, which excites everyone.
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
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