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February 1st, 2012
Whether we realize it or not, we all influence people all day long. When we interact with one person, that interaction not only affects that person, but everybody around that person. We have a powerful level of impact that we may not even recognize. It creates this incredible ripple effect on every single person we touch in our lives – people that we may not know well or at all.
The question is then, is it a positive influence? When we are conscious of who we are and what we do, and how much influence we have, then we’re really able to affect people in a positive way – as opposed to affecting them in a negative way. The funny thing is, when we do affect them in a negative way, we don’t control the situation. We feel out of control, ourselves. That’s the repercussion of the negative effect. It comes back and then detrimentally has an impact on our lives too.
When we start to say, “What works well that can I do more of, and what am I missing that I know I can better do?” then we start to think about what our potential really is. Nobody reaches their potential – nobody – but, we can begin to tap into and start to live to our potential. Those are the people who will be the most successful and the most fulfilled in all aspects of their lives.
People are looking for more… more out of the products and services they buy, more out of the people they associate with, and, certainly, more out of life, in general. It used to be that it was all about finding the right job, staying there for 35 years, being content with what the company and your life gave you, and kind of making the best of things. Now it’s, “How can I create the best of things?” They want the right job. They want the right lifestyle. They want absolutely everything, and they’re beginning to recognize that they’re actually at the center of it all. They’re the common denominator in terms of creating everything that they want in their lives and work. It’s a fantastic movement to see and watch.
The irony is that we achieve control when we stop trying to control things – when we start to understand that our lives are a creation, on which we have a direct impact and that includes what we do and with whom we do it. And, when we feel like we are at the center, that means we create what happens in our lives and no longer live at the effect of life.
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: choice, expectations, intentions, leadership, new perspective, success
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January 25th, 2012
Every moment asks you to show up in some way. Consider, right now, who are you being? How are you showing up?
In coaching sessions, I regularly hear from clients and students about situations that have them stressed and frustrated. These situations are holding them back, getting in their way, blocking their options, or just not listening to what they want. At the moments when you’re really pushing and trying to get ahead and getting the results you’re seeking, who are you being?
Unfortunately, these people and situations, which are “in the way,” didn’t get the memo about getting out of your way and changing to be how you want them to be. As my very wise, very short, very Italian uncle used to so eloquently say, “Fuggedaboudit!” In fact, in these moments with your clients, the classic, quintessential break-up line is actually true: It’s not them; it’s you!
So I repeat, every moment asks you to show up in some way. You are energized, engaged, and hopefully resolved to make a big impact this year. And so are others! They want to achieve just like you do. What they want, how they want to show up, and how they want to get things done is up to them. You can’t change them. You can change you and what you want, how you show up, how you get things done, and who you want to be, as you’re doing it all is entirely within your control.
Be proactive. Be intentional. Think about how you want to show up – when things are rolling, when things get bumpy, when things get confusing, and when things get exciting!
And then support yourself with reminders. I have a client, right now, who set up his smart phone calendar to ask, “Who are being, right now?” at 4 pm, every day. What routines are you establishing to help you follow through and reinforce how you’ve decided to show up?
Live on Fire! {… and set a few reminders to keep you on track too!}
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: attitude, choice, expectations, intentions, new perspective, opportunity, self-improvement, success
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January 23rd, 2012
One of the most difficult challenges you have in this world is to look past who you see in the mirror and become self-loving and accepting. Why is this so difficult to do? Because in order to accept everything you are, you must know, without a doubt that you are more than that image in the mirror. Whether it is your physical appearance or anything else, as soon as you label yourself, you limit yourself.
—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD
Founder, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: expectations, life potential, perspective, possibilities
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January 18th, 2012
In Dan and Chip Heath’s bestselling book, Switch, they discuss how to make change happen (when change is hard) by looking at 3 components – which essentially are mental, emotional, and environmental or situational. To simplify their great presentation:
The mental component is about knowing why you’re doing what you’re doing and being clear and focused on where you’re headed.
The situational facet is about how to use your surroundings to tip things in your favor, making change or results more likely and perhaps a bit easier.
But the piece I wanted to highlight, was the emotional component (or what they call, Motivating the Elephant).
The Heaths give a great example of Don Berwick, a doctor, and, at the time, head of the Institute for Healthcare Improvement (IHI), who was looking to initiate several key quality of care improvements that were shown to have a dramatic impact and save lives (specifically, preventing avoidable deaths) in hospitals.
Most approaches, especially in the medical community, would include stating the case for the recommended improvements and logically show the better outcomes to be derived. But, Berwick knew that the logical case for these “standard procedures” wouldn’t galvanize the community to completely and wholeheartedly adopt the necessary changes. So, instead, he created a campaign to save an additional 100,000 lives and to do so in just 18 months!
In this process, Berwick’s example illustrated how important it is to connect goals to derive a deeper purpose and sense of meaning. It’s one thing to logically understand and commit to a worthwhile goal. It’s another thing, entirely, to emotionally connect that goal to who you are, what you stand for, and what your values and beliefs are. When you connect, in this way, to your goal, you are pulled forward towards your goal by something bigger than yourself.
Berwick tapped right into the very reason medical professionals become medical professionals… and, in doing so, they saved an estimated 122,300 lives in 18 months.
Deeply connect your goals to who you are and what you stand for, and you will be amazed at just how energized, engaged, and resolved you will become!
Live on Fire!
D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: change, choice, expectations, finding purpose, intentions, perspective, success
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January 16th, 2012
Look at life as a puzzle. The pieces of the puzzle are the things you do and have done, as well as the experiences that helped define your belief system. Every piece you find offers you the choice to decide whether or not it fits into your puzzle. Instead of trying to make each piece fit, or beating yourself up over those pieces that don’t fit, realize that life is a journey of discovery, and if you find a piece that doesn’t belong to you, you can choose to let it go.
—Bruce D Schneider, MCC, PhD
Founder, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
Tags: new perspective, possibilities
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