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Coaching Skill: Imagine The Possibilities!

May 23rd, 2013

I have two young children who bring me inexpressible joy.

Like any parent, I could give a long, itemized list of all the “how’s” and “why’s” they make my heart soar. One trait I notice, when observing them and their friends, is their sheer power of imagination.

I’m fascinated at how my son rides his rocking horse and really believes he is galloping atop of Secretariat.

And, when my daughter plays “school,” I’d swear the other kids in the class were really there as she teaches the day’s lesson.

What is even cooler is how adults get drawn into these imaginary worlds. Jake has his uncle give him a leg up onto his trusty steed, while he imitates the sound of the bugle leading the horses onto the track. Meanwhile, Kate gets the grandparents to sit attentively as she teaches.

Childlike imagination is wondrous.

But, what purpose can these flights of fancy have for us adults?

Well, I recently came across a quote by George Bernard Shaw that surmises the power of imagination. Shaw infers, “Imagination is the beginning of creation. You imagine what you desire, you will what you imagine, and, at last, you create what you will.”

Imagination is the spark that lights the fires of our dreams. The fuel that powers us to become what we want to become. We imagine all the time, whether we notice it or not.

When we plan a vacation, buy a Powerball ticket, or read a bedtime story, we imagine. We ponder how our lives will change when we act on fulfilling our purpose. As Shaw’s quote points out, however, imagination can’t be idle skylarking. It needs to be pursued. It requires action to move from a daydream to desire and from a desire to reality. 

Use your imagination, as well as your dreams, to envision the life you want to create. Then follow through, take ACTION, and materialize your wishes into a tangible and fruitful reality.

Life is a grand experience.
So much to see!
So much to learn!
So much to dream!

Imagine what you can accomplish. After all, the world is your horse race as you gallop toward your every whim…the classroom is where you dare to learn, teach, and inspire your limitless potential. 

So, what wondrous ideas will you imagine and act upon today, tomorrow, or two months from now?  

Live on Fire!

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

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Leadership: If They Take Away Your Title…

May 21st, 2013

Education 1Having been around many successful leaders in the military, in business, and being one myself, I am often asked by people how they can lead successfully. This triggers a rather lively discussion with questions such as, “Is it a particular leadership style?” or “Is it a particular skill set?”

In my experience, I’ve noticed successful leaders can vary dramatically. Some were authoritative, command and control types. Others were focused on collaborating with those they lead. Some had a high level of knowledge or expertise that helped them become successful. Others didn’t have a particular skill that set them apart, but they were charismatic and their colleagues were drawn to them. So to me, it’s not about a particular style or having a particular set of knowledge or skills.

When thinking about successful leadership, I naturally also thought about unsuccessful leaders. For me, something that is universal about the traditional hierarchy is that they “lead from their title.” When I think about titles, their purpose should be to define a person’s position in an organization, their compensation, and some perks they may receive. A title should not be used as a source of power, affect how you treat people, and ultimately, how you lead. Leading from your title may get people to do things, but they will never reach their maximum potential because they’re focused on staying in line.

Understanding how you view titles and leadership is crucial. When I think about leadership, it always comes back to the question, “If they take away your title, will they follow you?” The answer I come back to is, “If you’re an authentic leader, then yes they will.”

What I mean by being authentic is remaining true to who you are. People can tell if you’re being authentic. Just as leading from their title is often a trait of unsuccessful leaders, authenticity is a common characteristic of successful leaders. As an authentic leader, people will follow you out of respect. Even if you make a decision they may not like, they’ll still follow you and do their best, because they’ll believe your decision comes from an honest place.

To me, authenticity is why coach centric leaders are successful. Coaching starts by focusing on your core, or who you are. If a person leads from their core, their values are intact. Their focus is not clouded by a selfish need for attention, praise, or the limelight. In addition, authenticity allows you to develop the individual leadership style you’re most comfortable with, because that style reflects who you are. By leading from their core, not their title, coach centric leaders use their authenticity to motivate and inspire others to maximize their potential.

So, for anyone wondering how they can lead successfully, the first question you may want to ask yourself is, “If they take away your title…will they follow you?”

Zack Lemelle
Managing Partner, Corporate Engagement Services
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)
iPECleadership.com

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Building Networks of Trust

May 9th, 2013

We’re happy to have Paul Garro, Executive Director of City Year San Antonio, as our guest blogger. A featured speaker for iPEC’s “Dialogue Among Thought Leaders” series, Paul has been successfully serving the educational community for 20+ years.  In addition, he’s been a national consultant for “Teaching the Hard to Reach,” and has authored the first of a series of books entitled, “Classrooms of Inspiration.”

So, what builds trust?

For starters, a strong foundation for trust develops when you expose your limitations, own your actions, and admit that you can’t get everything done all by yourself. In fact, vulnerability and humility have the effect of gathering people together to shape meaning and motivate change.

Trust is also built by a demonstration of our values. When leaders stay true to their values, and their actions are aligned with what they say, confidence begins to build in the people they lead. In essence, these leaders develop powerful vulnerability, which translates into demonstrated integrity — one of the very cornerstones for building trust.

In the Corporation for National & Community Service’s study, “Volunteering and Civic Life in America,” participants from various cities across the country were asked to rate their level of trust in their neighborhoods, public schools, corporations, and the media. While neighborhoods and public schools had the highest levels of trust, corporations and the media were shown to have much lower levels, revealing the tremendous opportunity that exists to connect with our communities and become trusted partners.

How do we break down barriers and build bridges in order to capitalize on this opportunity and formulate trust? In other words, how do we creatively form relationships on our way to successfully building trusted community networks?

Being well-versed in your beliefs, and in your craft, allows you to embody your values and develop strategic relationships with the people and organizations within your communities. From these relationships, your academic organization can build a trusted portfolio of business and community network partners.

So, spend some time with a bit of self-reflection on these seemingly simple, yet powerful, questions:

-  How well versed am I in who I am?

-  How well versed am I in my craft?

To be sure, listening is also key, as is finding the commonality that exists between your organization and those within your community. Be bold and persistent in finding that commonality; it’s the fuel that will spark your ability to build networks of trust.

When you combine these elements together, you’ll also portray a sense of confidence  – confidence in your yourself and in your mission. With trust and confidence, and community alignment, you’ll be amazed by what you’ll be able to accomplish together.

Again, powerful vulnerability, that sense that you don’t have all the answers, that you can’t go it alone, is what paves the way for building, and sustaining, these all-important networks of trust. While they help to provide us with the strategic levers necessary to catapult the trajectory of our organization to an entirely new level (e.g., increasing its capacity for change, propelling its growth), perhaps most important of all is our shared ability to deliver a positive social return to our communities.

What do you see as possible within your organization, and across your community, by tapping into your own powerful vulnerability? And, how can you be a disciple in building communities of trust?

Paul Garro
Executive Director
City Year San Antonio

*The image above is an actual painting by Paul Garro, which not only reflects his artistic talents and immense creativity; it’s also a very personal reflection of his heart-centered approach as a servant leader.

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The Power of “Why”

May 8th, 2013

Photo Attribution: Wiertz Sabastien (Flickr)‘Why’ – one simple word that contains a powerful question within it.

There’s been a lot of focus on the power of “why,” in terms of understanding one’s motivation and what truly drives individuals to go after whatever it is they’re seeking.

I’d like to take a different look at ‘why’ in terms of understanding, well…anything! To do this, let’s be clear about what we want from ‘why.’ (Say that 10x fast!)

We don’t want to use ‘why’ to make people justify themselves.  Someone shouldn’t be left thinking, “Why do I have to explain myself?” Instead, they should be thinking, “How can I explain myself?”

The first question represents someone in a defensive posture, while the second is about building understanding – and that’s what we want from ‘why.’

‘Why’ – when asked from a place of curiosity – can create great understanding and bridge immense gaps. A curious ‘why’ gets someone considering, “so what led me to think, feel, or do that?” “Hmmm…why did I approach it that way?”

Such curiosity can offer great self-awareness and insight.

And yet, all too often, we assume we know ‘why.’ We fill in the gaps of the story with our own version of ‘why,’ which, coincidentally, reinforces whatever view we already had. Funny how that works out!

So, next time you’re a little confounded by what’s going on, or when you feel yourself getting a little worked-up (at yourself or someone else), start asking yourself:

- Why do I think that’s the case?
- Why am I interpreting things this way?
- What’s leading me to draw that conclusion?
- What’s making me feel this way?
- Why does it have to be this way?
- Why couldn’t it be different?

But beware: you may just stumble onto a light bulb moment of deeper meaning and clearer understanding.

Live on Fire!

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

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Let’s Be Better…Everyday

April 25th, 2013

The past several days have been quite eye opening. Photo Attribution: Katerha (Flickr)

I was rapt watching the coverage on TV recently, reporting on the manhunt in Boston for “Suspect #2.”  Flipping through the channels on my remote, I was trying to see if any station had markedly different coverage than the other, but the information being reported was basically the same.

While contemplating what happened, and analyzing my thoughts, I found myself trying to comprehend the “why” of it all. What leads people to their actions?  What’s the energy or motivating factor behind it all?

I wish, like everyone else probably does, that there were simple answers. There aren’t. It’s not as if simple answers would bring solace to the victims of tragedies like this latest one in Boston; perhaps it’s just my way of trying to comprehend something that I find completely incomprehensible.

What can we take away from the Boston Marathon bombings, the Sandy Hook Elementary School shootings, the Aurora movie theater massacre, and too many other attacks, that can give us hope?

One thing I can point to is the bravery of those first responders and civilians who run to the trouble and not from it. They see someone who needs help and literally risk their lives to offer that aid. They pull twisted wreckage off the victims. They offer medical treatment as best as they can. They carry the wounded away from the danger. They comfort those who have lost someone dear to them.

Those not directly impacted, or who are hundreds and thousands of miles away, offer support by donating food and clothing, giving blood, raising funds for charities, and standing together to show unity and sympathy.

Closer to home, I remember the days and weeks after 9-11. We all seemed to be a bit nicer to each other. A little more tolerant and forgiving. More caring.

You and I alone aren’t going to solve all of the world’s “challenges.” We can, however, make our little parts of it better. Let’s try to put ourselves in the other person’s shoes. To smile more. To tell those we love that we do. Help a neighbor or a stranger. Let’s make an effort to just be nicer. Everyday.

I’m committed to it. And if you are too, I’d love you to share what you experience through this commitment in the “Comments” section below.

Live on Fire!

D. Luke Iorio, CPC, PCC, ELI-MP
President & CEO
Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC)

 

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